A Transsexual Defends Gender Differences
September 11, 2011
(left, transsexual, not Cynthia)"I would characterize femininity as essentially being passive and expressive in the many ways in which the full colour of a female is appreciated...that is for her to rely on the security of the man as the dominant breadwinner and for her to be the homemaker, whilst attending to the care of children whilst the man is out at work."
by Henry Makow Ph.D.
We often think of transsexuals as people who want to blur gender lines but in fact many have a keener sense of gender differences than normal heterosexuals, especially these days. They are people born in the body of one sex but have the psyche of the other.
Last week, I received an email from a "Cynthia" in the UK with link about a girl penalized by her school for wearing a skirt.
"At one time when I was at school in the seventies and eighties we girls wore skirts...this is outrageous," Cynthia wrote. "It is now becoming so blatant to those who have had their eyes opened that something very serious is going on with attempts to undermine our society by blurring the genders which is as you say quite a deliberate attempt to achieve the greater goal by the elites to destroy the family unit."
Subsequently Cynthia revealed that she "was born male (now female after the operation in 2003 and happy), joined the Army at eighteen and served for six years and a further six years Reserve. I suffered gender dysphoria most of my life until the operation in my mid thirties and am now a normal looking woman, leading a normal life with a straight male partner."
Here is part of Cynthia's story and her thoughts on gender differences:
"There is a difference between a medical condition such as mine and one where gender blending and an over-sexed society ... is destroying what we deem as traditional family male/female roles.
I don't like to pigeon hole myself with labels and I don't see myself as a transsexual as I believe we are what we see ourselves to be. I consider myself to be a female, but not a woman as I have no womb...God I wish it could sound more straightforward, but these things never are really.
When I was five-years-old I knew something wasn't quite right, so there was a lot of confusion surrounding where I felt my place should be in life. I felt scared at times, perplexed, anxious, insecure, seeking reassurance especially from my mum who had just separated from her husband (my dad) after a turbulent and sometimes violent relationship.
The family upsets can't have helped, but I don't think they were responsible for my gender dysphoria. It didn't have anything to do with not having my Dad around, as my mum re-married three years later. The feeling of my gender was just within me to be honest, just needed the right society/circumstances and people to allow it to surface.
It wasn't until 200, that I really began the transition properly. I was living as a woman 100% from then onwards. Since then I haven't looked back. But, it's not a journey I would recommend for the fainthearted or those that are transvestites trying it out for a fetishistic kick...and these people do exist, but rarely do they make it as normal women.
FEMININITY
I would characterize femininity as essentially being passive and expressive in the many ways in which the full colour of a female is appreciated...that is for her to rely on the security of the man as the dominant breadwinner and for her to be the homemaker, whilst attending to the care of children whilst the man is out at work.
A woman/female does enjoy a door being held open for her (and any woman/female that doesn't is either not being honest or is a feminist or butch fem), I know I do.
Femininity is also about naturally being relaxed with your own sensuality in any place, whether home or in public. The sensuality does not have connotations of sex written all over it, nor is it about nakedness or the wearing of ridiculously daring clothes...it is the polar opposite of a man's lack of obvious sensuality that I feel is the attraction between males and females, and clothes and mannerisms are in part an expression of this.
MASCULINITY
I think masculinity is in the appreciation of seeing women as the weaker sex, physically. It is also the natural desire in wanting to be the breadwinner and for the protection of family. It is also in being respectful towards women and in the confidence of a man's walk. In times of trouble it is masculine to be gutsy and to help unfortunate people and/or sticking up for someone.
This is seriously lacking today! A man who enjoys wearing the trousers, but is not violent or aggressive and is modest in his masculinity...ironically this modesty makes him more masculine.
I think an unclean man with shoddy clothes is very unattractive and it is in the way a man walks in terms of either over confidence or lack of confidence that is unattractive.
An unintelligent man is very unattractive as is a sheep-like mentality and one who shouts out to people in the streets trying to get people's attention.
An intelligent man who takes care of his appearance, and wears a tie or open-neck clean shirt is quite attractive. A man who is pushy is very off putting as is men who pretend to be brave, but aren't.
A woman who is unclean is unattractive. A woman who is selfish and uncaring is unattractive and women or men that take or deal in drugs are unattractive. A person who is drunk and loud-mouthed and swearing is unattractive, as is violence."
WLW said (September 13, 2011):
Are not people born with physical disabilities? Are not people born with mental disabilities?
So why can't a person be born with gender disabilities?
I am a hardcore traditionalist, orthodox Christian. Moral and ethical to the core. Homosexuality is wrong and evil.
But I think in """some""" cases of transgender, as there are physical and mental disabilities there are soul/gender disabilities as well. There are so many ailments out there that afflict human beings, it is staggering. Instead of persecuting these people or condemning them, they do need help in secret. Sometimes the body must change in order to meet the requirements of the soul. As there are defects in our limbs or senses or in our brains, there may be defects in the soul-to-body match up as well.
There has to be discernment between those that have a real soul-to-body matchup, those who are possessed by demon spirits, and those who are evil by being culturally trained that way. The species of human is quite a screwed up mess. But those who are afflicted with a real soul-to-body mismatch, need our concern, their privacy, and help. We need more sophistication in the dealing of this problem.