"Female-Fail" -- Why Men Quit
August 4, 2012
Ryan, 25, Reports from the Front Lines
"I sometimes get sad and feel like crying because I want a girl to love me for who I am, but girls seem so shallow these days. I gotten rejected by girls for not being tall enough or not having six-pack abs, and they actually tell me that's the reason they don't like me."
I read what Maggie had to say about modern men in "Male Fail - Why Can't Men Step Up?"
I am a 25-year-old-man who lives in Vancouver. Maggie, men seem to lack ambition because we have reached a point where we have simply stopped caring. It's depressing to be constantly scrutinized by girls I date, and no matter what I do, it is never good enough.
I make enough money to rent my own nice apartment in the city across from the park and I take care of all my bills and have no debts, but girls aren't impressed by that.
They want a man who's a professional and makes more than $100,000 and can take them on trips and buy everything they want. The first thing they ask me is "what do you do?" and then "how much does that pay?"
Why should I make more for a woman when she has her own job anyways and claims she can take care of herself?
I only need to make enough money for ONE person now, me. Remember also that we younger men can look at what has happened to our fathers and learn from that.
My dad has been married three times now. He's in court right now because his second wife wants more money from him now that she learned he got an inheritance and she wants a piece of the pie.
And they were only together for less than two years, and that was ten years ago and she still feels entitled to take as much as she can from him. Yet she works as a civil engineer for the city of Toronto and makes a really good salary, but she wants to take even more from him now that she knows he has more money.
It seems like women just want to get as much as they can from us, while at the same time bragging that they don't need a man and can take care of themselves,
In fact women on average are better educated and earn more money than the average man these days, but they still want to use us out of sheer greed it seems.
I don't care how much better educated and how much women are earning these days. I'm not impressed because I'm a man and I only look at the way a girl looks physically and her personality.
We men don't care what a woman makes or what school she went to; we are different than women that way.
Women want a man who is more successful than them, and since more and more girls are getting higher educations and getting better jobs they are getting frustrated and angry at us men, because they notice that we don't give a damn if she is the main "breadwinner". Who cares if you make more money than your husband?
Maggie's friends are looking down on their own husbands because they have better jobs than their partners. That shouldn't matter if you truly love him!
I believe this is the reason many girls my age also claim to be bisexual and claim they are more physically attracted to the female body. This is VERY common nowadays and when I meet a girl who says she is only attracted to men, it's a rare occasion.
I believe this is a response to the lack of "real men" these days, who are ambitious and driven, etc....It seems women are trying to rid themselves of men completely and the only thing left that they want us for is to get money from us, even though they don't even need it, it's just something they seem to be compelled to do.
That's why I've basically given up and only want to date girls for sex now, since I am too scared to get married after what I've seen, and I'm not very motivated to be successful when I know I will probably end up having to give a lot of that money to my future ex-wife anyways, it doesn't even seem worth it.
I make just enough for myself to live a comfortable life on and I don't pay for my dates when we go out for dinner or movies. They can pay for themselves since they all get good educations and jobs now. My last two relationships were strictly for sex, and only lasted a couple months each time.
I sometimes get sad and feel like crying because I want a girl to love me for who I am, but girls seem so shallow these days. I gotten rejected by girls for not being tall enough or not having six pack abs, and they actually tell me that's the reason they don't like me.
So I work out at the gym all the time, take steroids, and diet drugs, I get leaner and muscular, and then I can easily get sex from them. If I go off for awhile and take a break then I rejected again by girls.
Girls seem as shallow as men about looks. I'm fed up with being treated like crap by them so I just try to get them in bed as soon as possible and that's it. They don't get anything else from me.
The way women in Canada are, can you really blame us young men for just wanting to use them for sex?
And so many of us are turning to video games, drugs, and sex for pleasure because we have so much trouble finding meaningful relationships.
And sex just for the sake of sex is overrated too. It feels good for a few minutes and then it's over and I'm back to where I started. I might as well just get high cause it's the same thing and I don't need to jump through all these damn hoops and answer the same boring questions with drugs.
If I have $120 and I want to have fun, I'd actually rather buy drugs than a hooker, since hookers often make me feel like crap because they don't even pretend to like me and try to kick me out as soon as possible so they can get another guy in and make more money.
I see what they do as a microcosm of what regular Canadian girls do all the time in their relationships. They date a guy for a couple months, the whole time keeping their eyes open for someone who can offer her more.
As soon as she finds one, she will dump the guy she's with or just start ignoring him, and then start dating the guy who looks like he can offer her more, like can take her on more trips, has a nicer car, better job, etc...
(Left. Feminine charm becoming extinct)
One of my sex partners last year was an 18-year-old girl, who was so aggressive that on our first date she pulled off my pants without me telling her to and did this outside in a public park because she said she wanted to see how big my d**k was.
She later told me she was dating other guys too, and was looking for a guy with a bigger penis than me, but that I was good for the time being. She would call me up whenever she wanted sex, and when after a couple months she stopped calling, I assumed she must have finally found a really big guy like she wanted.
She also said to me a few times that if I had rippled abs, she would have sex with me every day instead of just once or twice a week. She even showed me pictures of her favorite male celebrities with their rippled physiques and said that what she wished I looked like.
Since she thought I was handsome but not rippled enough. I consoled myself with the knowledge that at least I was getting regular sex and not having to pay for it.
This girl didn't care about money, she always paid for herself or even treated me to a steak dinner or pizza when we went out sometimes. But I was only her sex partner until she could find someone bigger and better and she told me that.
This type of scenario is not uncommon amongst young people in my city. The guys and girls are obsessed with sex and watch porn all the time (yes the girls I've been with watched porn too, usually pretty violent stuff too where the girl is getting roughed up by the guy. Lesbian porn is another popular one for young girls to watch since they all claim to be bisexual.)
If a girl "settles down" with a boyfriend, it's usually because he's got a good job and she wants him around to take care of her since it's expensive to live here.
So it's not just that we guys are bad because we want to use girls for sex, girls are doing it too now so I don't see them as "victims" of men, but instead as willing participants who look at us men as pieces of meat and judge us even more harshly by our looks than we do with them.
I don't even want to get married now. All my friends' parents are divorced, and I mean every single one of them. It would be nice to experience real love one day but I'm not holding my breath. I might have to go to Japan or the Philippines to find a wife since the girls here have made me cynical.
Related - Revenge of an Unloved Man (Man went postal in 2009)