"My Shangri-la" - The Last Outpost of Femininity
December 17, 2011
(left. "John Day" and wife)In my view, the Philippines greatest natural treasure is the women who love and appreciate the male and who love to bear and care for children the male can give them. After 1 month I found I didn't need pills to make love every other day. Just someone who really loves me.
by John Day
(henrymakow.com)
As far back as I can remember what I really wanted in life was to love a girl, treat her like a queen and have her return that love. I didn't know it back then but that desire became my Shangri-la. I had to go nearly halfway around the world to find it.
Growing up in the USA, I was conditioned to believe that women were so "special", that abuse and divorce were always perpetrated by males. So to have a happy marriage, all I had to do was treat my wife well. What a load of BS!
Late into my first marriage I tried to discuss how illogical it was that after 22 years, every single argument had the same resolution. That it was always my fault. My wife wouldn't discuss it. She could see the logic of it and didn't want to face her guilt.
Gentlemen, think of it, if you accept this idea, and many of you have, then the problems in the marriage are your fault, because woman are just so "special!"
This "unworthy male" view was held by my second wife also. During the first week after the wedding, she told me her 13 year old daughter didn't want me to touch her. I had hugged her during the courtship and she didn't mind it. These people were Mexicans. You can't meet a Mexican without getting a hug. I love that about them. This young girl hugged men at church and family gatherings. Why the change? My wife said that she supported her daughter because I might sexually molest her, being a step father and all. WHAT THE HECK??
I thought I could prove I wasn't like that and they would respond to my real love. But after four years of being treated as a convicted sex felon in my own home, I realized this was not real love.
It took me 30 years and two marriages to realize I could no longer choose a woman who buys into the lie that men are morally inferior to women. And rather than love men, these women work to control them with the carrot of acceptance and the stick anger.
WHAT TO DO?
So what is a beat up 50-something male to do? Or a male of any age who shares the same dream but can't find it in the anti-male culture of America?
Well rather than giving up, I trusted in my heart and I found Shangri-la 15 degrees north latitude and 121 degrees east longitude in the Philippines. In my view the Philippines greatest natural treasure is the women who love and appreciate the male and who love to bear and care for children the male can give them.
I began meeting women through on line social networks. No not the (F)ederal data(B)asing site. And when a 20-something Filipino girl showed interest in me, my interest was piqued. I didn't end up meeting her but I started to look at the women of the Philippines. I was struck by how often young Filipino women say age doesn't matter. And now that I am here I can tell you it is true. It is your kindness that counts. Many Filipinas value an older man.
In late February of 2011, I met one Filipino woman who said she was "looking for the right man" for her. I was struck by that phrase. I knew I too was looking for just the right mate. We emailed and did video chats. Here I was a 57-year-old man looking at a beautiful sexy 35-year-old woman and she is saying how good looking I am!
Within the week we had our first video chat.
I explained that I think government control over the marriage covenant is anti God. She agreed and invited me to come to the Philippines and we would live as man and wife with our own vows.
On March 24th I met here at the airport in Manila. I am retired (a little early) so I can live anywhere I can afford. It is now Dec15th. She is tending to my newborn son.
She is sexy and very loving. After one month I found I didn't need pills to make love every other day. Just someone who really loves me.
But more importantly she love me as a male. Same as most of the women here. They love to serve their men. I am never allowed to wash dishes or clothes or stuff like that.
Yes they love it when I work around the place and fix something or plant stuff and build stuff. Yes a little over half my retirement check goes to support us and her mom.
But I am buying a little land and home for just $500 a month and it will be paid for in 2 years. We are super happy. She speaks great English and I am loving living here.
NO DESIRE TO GO TO USA
She loves her family so much she has no desire to live in the US. Yet if I wanted to go there she would willingly go with me.
She has a large group of family and life long friends who all love me totally.
And I love all of them. Why in hell would I want to return to the US??
I have never been happier in my life. We plan to have a another child to try ad get a girl also.
The Philippines is a very traditional culture. Many younger Filipinas want a man to love them and give them children. Unlike the US system which allows us to sever the inter-generational ties by abandoning our parents to a government paid retirement, in the Philippines the generations stick together. So children become your help in old age. It is common to have three generations happily sharing one roof.
Children are considered a great treasure. A woman who cannot have children is sometimes given one by a sibling. That is true love and sharing. You begin to see why it really is a major step toward Shangri-la. I am here to stay.
So if you have a small pension or can do online work and earn just $750 US a month by computer; you can easily support a nice family here in the provinces.
Listen to a man who has first hand experience. If you love people and are willing to adapt to a simple life, give paradise a try.
And what if you aren't so handsome? I can tell you first-hand. Filipino women have a taste for American looking men. I have seen plenty of American men here who looked anything but handsome. But the love in the eyes of their beautiful Filipino women convinces me that these males are truly loved and cared for. I know I am. For once in my life I have someone who loves me.
Check it out. You might find your Shangri-la too.
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D said (December 19, 2011):
Best wishes to you and your wife. I am in the process of re-uniting in Canada with my girlfriend from Davao, So far no regrets, she is wonderful.
A Reminder to other men considering this option to be aware that not all filipinas are honest. Many sit in the chat rooms playing up multiple men. Just keep your head connected to your heart.