Women Duped to Seek Power, Not Love
September 2, 2009
(Slightly revised from August 2007)
by Henry Makow Ph.D.
While on a visit to Toronto, I saw a beautiful young East Indian woman helping her brother move into a university residence where I was staying. She spent eight hours hauling heavy boxes and furniture.
"Doesn't your brother have any male friends who could help him?" I asked her.
"Oh, I'm a great believer in equality," she replied cheerfully as she hoisted a book shelf.
Equality! What a boon for women. In the bad old days, women wouldn't be allowed to do hard physical labor like this.
This is a bright girl in a Pre-Med program yet she had been easily duped to deny her femininity. They told her femininity was "socially constructed" and she had to be "independent." Since when are biological instincts socially constructed? More likely "independence" is. Yet, here she is, stunting her natural development by postponing marriage and children for career. Under the guise of "rights" for women, feminism has been a vicious lesbian attack on femininity.
Women were intended to carry children, not pianos. Equal does not mean identical. We all have an equal right to dignity and fulfillment but our paths are not the same. Men are fulfilled by supporting and leading a family. Women are fulfilled by devotion to husband and family and by experiencing their love. (Of course, women can have careers but they should be secondary to family.)
The East Indian girl's charm and beauty would inspire many a man to nest. But with all the study and heavy lifting, her bloom will fade and she'll gain weight. By the time she graduates, she won't turn heads any longer.
I see teenage girls driving motorized lawn mowers for the city. Don't tell me the masculinity this requires won't invade their character.
I hear from men who say most women still have their feminine instincts but can't overcome societal and family pressure. Here is an anguished cry from Brian, a 29-year old Californian: "Ya can't... understand the damned frustration I feel about the degradation of the natural roles of man and woman today. Some days i'm made to feel like a caveman that refuses to evolve.
"I've never had a problem getting attention from the opposite sex. I however have never found a real woman who would be one. My last was a 26-year-old Accounting Major. 2 years we were together. I knew she was feminist, but who the hell isn't out here. It wasn't, however, until I met her parents that I saw what I believed to be the root of it all. It was obvious who ran the house in her family, her mother. Her father was just a goofy big kid. In her home she was encouraged to go to school and be independent if verbally then by example. I could tell that there was no way in hell she could ever be appreciated [by her parents, friends] as just a mere homemaker to her family.
"She however inside was a real woman. I treated her like a man should. I was in control. As I must be in any of my relationships. She loved me for it. I saw how she looked into my eyes, and when she was with me she knew who she wanted to be. I think it was finally pressure from her family and friends that led to the end of the relationship. ...I suppose what I'm saying is most of the women I meet do want what I'm trying to give them. They just don't know how to accept it either in them self or in front of the world."
A lot of men can identify with Brian. They can save valuable time by checking out the family power structure in advance and passing over women who do not have good relationships with strong fathers.
Other women are so sexually confused, can they be called "women" any longer? They don't know how to love.
I sat down with Greg, a tall, handsome, fit, smart, successful Toronto contractor and custom builder. He is 40 and a dream catch for the "oops I forgot to have children" set.
He just ended a three-year relationship with a career woman in her late 30's due to issues of power and control.
"She wanted to wear the pants and treat me like a servant," he said. "She was always calculating who did what for whom, and what was 'fair and equitable.'"
Now you'd think a woman nearing the end of her fertility would snap up a man like Greg who wants to put down roots and have a family. You'd think she'd know how to make him happy. But this woman didn't. For example, she demanded he nurse her when she was sick but said he was "on his own" when he was ill.
"As I became more successful, she actually felt threatened. She was losing control.," said Greg. She talked about having children but her actions belied her words. Instead of reading about child rearing, she brought books home about getting the corner office."
Now she and her unmarried friends sit around bashing men and complaining about the lack of good men. "Half the people in my age group are single," Greg says. "It's really scary."
Men have been feminized. Greg should not have engaged in a power struggle. He should have said at the outset, "You can have power or you can have love. You cannot have both. You can be my right arm or you can leave."
A woman who really loves a man will accept these terms. (She wants love not power.)This is how marriage takes place. Of course, he will consult her. He wants her to be happy. We love the people who love us.
In heterosexual marriage, the male wins a woman's trust (i.e. love) through courtship. In return she gives him the power to love her by deferring to him. This exchange of power for love is how a man and a woman become one. It is the psychological key that allows us to grow. Sex is the symbol of this permanent and exclusive bond.
As I have said, feminism is designed to destabilize society by coercing women to abandon the feminine role and usurp the male one instead, undermining heterosexuality and the family. Like all aggression, this perverse assault on gender difference is disguised as an act of "defense" (of woman and homosexual rights.) Rockefeller social engineers want women to have careers instead of family, and this is happening in millions of cases.
The ultimate goal is a banker-run totalitarian "New World Order." What we think of as "money" is really central banker "credit." They want to consolidate their fraudulent monopoly, eventually controlling you with their "credit" card in your body.
In order to sabotage marriage and family, women have been filled with mistrust for men and marriage. They been duped to seek sex and power instead of marriage and motherhood. What women really want is power expressed as male love. They will get it when they are finally able to trust a man, their husband.
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