Wife's Infidelity is Blessing in Disguise
December 3, 2014
When his wife told him about her affair,
Eric Carver thought his life would fall apart.
Instead, it became an opportunity to reach
a better place.
October:
My wife pulled the "I love you but I'm not in love with you" bullshit three months ago... she then left our home, and is currently f**king another man, and it seems, had at the very least carried out an emotional affair w/ him online for a six month minimum prior to confessing and leaving.
There are many more heinous details. My poor daughter's life has been rocked... she's only seven and in Grade Two. Over and over, I ask my wife (soon to be ex) how she could be so absolutely selfish. She's thought about no one but herself and "finding my happiness in life" as she says...
One thing is certain. We need to begin working at the judicial level to change the laws. Women like my wife should be punished harshly. Infidelity and abandonment should be a felony offense. But as the laws are currently written, ill probably end up PAYING her a ridiculous sum each month. For what?!?!
Dec 1:
Thank you for keeping me in mind my friend. It actually means a lot to me to know that someone so far away is actually thinking about how I am doing.
To answer your question, I am coping just fine. While at the onset of this entire ordeal I thought that my world was ending and I felt as if I might die, through a lot of steadfast prayer, I managed to turn the situation into a positive for myself.
I actually lost almost 40 pounds; I grew a beard and I look better and more masculine than I have in a very very long time. Women have noticed and have responded very well.
Although I did plead at first with my wife to come to her senses and do the right thing for our family's sake, she did not respond positively and just became more blatant with her affair.
In turn, I poured my energy into my music and I began playing with several bands getting paid to do it, and meeting women in the process. I started dating and I also focused on being a good father to my daughter the three-and-a-half days a week that I see her. Ironically enough I have met a very wonderful woman four years older than myself -- a single mother -- and she sees eye-to-eye with me on all of the things that my wife disliked.
Specifically my wife did not like my research and what she considered my obsession with conspiracy theories, Satanism, the Illuminati, our governments and the shadow government, and so on. My girlfriend, however, is in tune and very aware and it is like a match made in heaven in that regard.
Of course now my wife is aware that another woman has my attention. She is now trying to make nice with me. However I am quite skeptical but I am not sure what I should do. Yes we do have a child and I feel a moral obligation... however, once a cheat always a cheat... you see my point Henry?
The new woman, whose name is Molly, has a lot of promise as a great stepmother, and in her philosophy and outlook on life. I believe that she and I could be very happy together without having to fake it...
So my friend as you might guess I feel a little mixed up right now. Not sure what to do. But I can tell you one thing: I never thought that I could feel the feelings that I am feeling right now-- ever again-- but I am and it is so wonderful.
On top of the fact that we formed a solid intellectual and emotional connection, I happen to think that she is quite beautiful!
Chetsy said (December 4, 2014):
Sorry to be so simplistic, but two wrongs don't make a right. I believe marriage is sacred and so is forever. If the wife is coming around, then good. Try to reconcile. But a tit for tat is not the answer. Molly should not be part of the picture. I agree with whoever said that the daughter will remember how fast her mom was replaced. Focus on being the best Eric, father, musician, husband(?) he can be. That's what God wants as Jesus made plain.