I understand (your point about David Deida (Left) [nee Greenberg, "The Way of the Superior Man" being too "New Agey") . He is a spiritual man. I like his spirituality, although his tantra is beyond me for now.

But what I do like about him, is that he encourages men to take total responsibility. For instance, he says that when women complain (as they are apt to do) you should never listen to what they say, but connect to their deeper message: you are wasting your time. In his view women start complaining when they unconsciously sense you are not in control and in your strength. I believe there is a great deal of truth in that, although clearly women have been brainwashed to overestimate themselves, so that they complain more than is warranted.

Mind you, I don't believe feminism (which I despise, having been raised by one) is the only culprit: men have been dominated by women for ever. I'm pretty sure that even before WW2 90% of men were licking their wives boots at home, even though keeping up appearances for their peers.

I know 90% of the men that I know do so these days.........
Most men simply give in to the emotional stress that women create, instead of standing firm.

Men have been raised to be mentally weak. There is a story on-line by a Mr. Lynch, a slave trader ( who got, you guessed it, lynched), who explains to his fellow traders how to destroy masculinity in their slaves, so that the women rule in the slave communities. It makes the community more easily exploitable. I'm pretty sure this has been going on in the West as well.

We live in a matriarchy, especially in the private sphere. Hitler in his 'Mein Kampf' also made the point that the masses are feminine in nature: docile and following.

So the whole thing is indeed about emancipation, but of the male. But the truth is, that most males need a major kick in the butt if they are ever going to rule even their own lives, let alone those of their families.

Another nice point by Deida is, that a man should choose a woman, that has chosen him. That is what I did, and it worked. A woman that is with a man she chose has it easier to surrender and show loyalty. It gives me more power in our marriage, which is necessary in times of marital crises. A woman is more apt to respect a man she has chosen than a man that has haunted her. As Don Juan had it: you must be the flame, and not the moth.

Thanks for being in touch, I appreciate it, I have been following your work for years. We share a common interest in the monetary and the male/female thing :-)