It's OK to be a Woman!

April 28, 2013

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"Feminism has destroyed the things you most want, namely love, courtship and marriage."


This is a staple I post every April.  Spring came late this year.




"You have been betrayed by society which has gone over to the dark side. Feminism, a lesbian and occult ideology which denies gender differences, is poison for women."


By Henry Makow Ph.D.
(from April 1, 2008) 

"In Spring, a young man's thoughts turn to love" and so do a young woman's.

Like pretty daffodils poking their heads above matted leaves,  attractive young women are suddenly in evidence on neighborhood streets. They are usually alone and strike me as confused. They want male approval but are told men are evil.  Their instincts say, get married and have children but society tells them families are oppressive: "Get a career instead."

If I could talk to these young women, I would say this:

You have been betrayed by society which has gone over to the dark side. Feminism, a lesbian and occult ideology which denies gender differences, is poison for women. It has destroyed the things you most want and need, namely love, courtship and marriage.

Young men no longer think in terms of winning your friendship and love. They no longer need to marry or even commit to get sex. If you don't go to bed, another girl will. No more dates. No more flowers, dinners, dances and movies.

It's booze, bed and  "Good Bye." 

"Women's rights" indeed.

Feminism was not a spontaneous, grass roots social phenomena. It was top-down elite social engineering i.e. behavior modification orchestrated using the mass media, government and education.  It was wholly sponsored by the Illuminati (satanist) central bankers in order to make women have careers instead of families.

Film producer, the late Aaron Russo was told this by the Rockfellers. Watch this video. The purpose is to undermine the family as the primary social institution so people will be dependent on government and corporations.

It is part of a larger plan to bring in a veiled totalitarian world government by dynamiting the four legs of our human identity: race, religion, nation and family. The "war on terror" and 9-11 are other aspects of this elite agenda.

You are in the springtime of your life. Just as flowers blossom now, the years 18-26 are when you are at the height of your fertility and most attractive to males. This is the time when you must marry and have children if you want to be surrounded by loved ones when you are older. We are part of a natural cycle and we can't get a raincheck from nature.

So my message is: reject casual sex. Demand courtship and love. (If you don't have a strong exclusive connection with a man before sex, he certainly won't have time for you after the challenge is gone. )

Consecrate yourself for your future husband and children. If you belong to many men, it will be hard to ever belong to one. Concentrate on prospective marriage-minded males, usually a few years older than you. Don't waste your time on boys or nomads. You want a home builder.

Do not compete with other women on the basis of sex. Let the sluts have the sex.  You are looking for a permanent lifetime commitment. Therefore cultivate the qualities and skills desirable in a wife and a mother.

Essentially this is a willingness to sacrifice for the right man. (This will make him love you.) And the right man is someone you admire and love, who is dedicated, trustworthy, loyal and demonstrates his love for you.

Meanwhile pursue a career as a second priority. You need to be independent in order to hold out for the right man.

I also describe the dynamics of heterosexuality, the exchange of female power for male love, here. 

SEX IS THE SECRET RELIGION OF SECULAR SOCIETY

Our sex drive is a natural instinct to ensure we propagate.  It is like hunger for food or love. It is the most physically intimate you can be with another person so you must be emotionally intimate first. People think they can get spiritual intimacy by physical intimacy. It doesn't work that way.

Our neo-pagan society has turned sex (and romance) into a mystical religious experience and way of achieving salvation. This is because our society is secretly run by a sex cult, Freemasonry.  (What do you think obelisks like the Washington Monument represent?)

Eckhardt Tolle was asked a question that illustrated how sex and romance have become our religion.

"I always thought that true enlightenment is not possible except through love in a relationship between a man and a woman. Isn't this what makes us whole again? How can one's life be fulfilled until that happens?"


Tolle answered: "Salvation is not elsewhere in place or time. It is here and now." ("The Power of Now," p. 145)

Salvation!!?? Can you see how difficult it is to establish stable relationships if expectations are so high?

No wonder many men find women unapproachable. Women hold the key to their salvation! It doesn't help that the culture is inflating women's egos--telling them they are goddesses. Despite their beauty, young women are just as ordinary as men.

Don't think in terms of salvation. Think in terms of what kind of life you want and what your needs are. Look for a compatible person who will fulfill your needs, and vice-versa. If two people come through for each other over the course of time, they will love each other.

Put the romantic stuff on the back burner. Usually it is based on Hollywood nonsense and idealization. People aren't perfect and not worthy of adulation. They are all flawed and the good is reward for putting up with the bad.

In conclusion, you have been betrayed by society. Feminism  is elite social engineering. Your choice is whether you want to participate in the natural life cycle, and grow and be fulfilled, or be another casualty of the elite war against gender and family.
 
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See also my "The Dying Art of Femininity"

Reply From a Special Young Man:

Thanks Henry for writing a great article. I'm a 22 yr. old American guy who gets plenty of attention from women, but I wish I could pass out this article to every girl I've ever met.

Even though it would probably mean that sex would be less available for me if these women would take this articles advice. I DON"T CARE ! , As strong as my desire to have sex with pretty girls is, it doesn't compare to the desire I have to truly Love a woman. The strongest desire I have in my heart has always been to find a girl that could unleash all the love that I have in my heart.

Thankfully, it only takes one women, and hopefully she's reading this article right now.




Comments for "It's OK to be a Woman! "

Bert said (April 30, 2013):

When the mature woman looks back over her life, in her heart she does not see her life as a string of separate discrete events (job-1 here, job-2 there, marriage-1 here, marriage-2 there, etc.) The successful woman sees her life as a SINGLE EVENT.

It begins or is awakened when her powers are respected by the courtship of a male. It then proceeds to consecration and marriage, and then to conception of children, then birthing of them, then nursing them, then raising them, and then releasing them.

The typical male might see these events as discrete and separate. But the heart of the female thinks differently. It sees these events as one single continuity ... her life.

Fulfillment of duty happens when she makes a unique contribution to evolution of love and consciousness. After releasing her children, the joy of her heart is replenished a thousand fold when she sees her grandchildren grow in health, happiness, love and prosperity.

As an example of the real empowerment for the female, when she conceives and gives birth, she ALONE successfully transforms her husband into a father.

For her young husband, this is a hugely responsible and rewarding turning point. He knows that no job, no career, and no corporation can ever accomplish that for him. Also, the processes of conception and birthing are known to the female heart as ONE EVENT. (see the DVD by Elena Vladimirova, “Birth as We Know It.”)

Only a few generations ago, that is, prior to the creation of a medical mafia system by the Illuminati, women never once thought of lying down to conceive, until they knew that they were in a bed with a husband who wanted them to feel secure and protected. Only a few generations ago, women never even thought of conceiving new evolution (i.e. a child) until they were in the same bed in which they intended to give birth to it.

Later, you accurately identify the “four legs of our human identity: race, religion, nation and family.” It may be worth mentioning the emotional precedents to these important expressions of our human identity. They might be characterized as, our innocence (especially childhood!), our creativity and generosity (in a practical sense), and our satisfaction and compassion (for ourselves and others). After these personal aspects are assembled and functioning, then our civility and collectivity finds expression through the four legs that you mention.

Male and female, we have a duty to not waste our chance to make an upward contribution to evolution of consciousness. Old age then becomes a nourishment and a replenishment, rather than an Illuminati nightmare enforced by a degenerate police state. The Illuminati are well aware that if the principle of innocence can be destroyed (i.e. if the principle of innocence can be adulterated, by porn and poisoning, etc.) then the whole thing (i.e. the process of evolution) will come apart.

As I get older (I’m 66), I discover that our so-called “sex drive” is not about sex. Nor is it about power or propagation. We are given a sexual function for purposes of evolution, and possibly for renewal of the innocence of our marriage. Sex outside the protections of marriage, and even sex within marriage, but outside the duty to respect innocence of our partner becomes an adulteration and a satanic fornication.

The Illuminati are fully aware that even within a marriage, when the innocence (sex) of the marriage is abused or dirtied, it will introduce a spiritual corruption that will cause the marriage to collapse.

Take care. Again, an important article. The intention is clear. Only by protecting the innocence of marriage, do we protect the upward evolution of consciousness.


Christian said (April 28, 2013):

special thanks for this special entry.
It has touched me very deeply.

I think that as true males and not normal and mentally rearranged men ( I am talking about mass media's impact on our behaviour) our ultimate role model must be Jesus Christ.

And I would like to propose something..I know that there are many people there reading your blog.. real men and real women..

Would you like to coordinate Three Days of Prayer? one day men will pray for the women, and the other, women will pray for the men and in the last day we will pray together, giving thanks to God for hearing our prayers. We both need strength and through prayer we can give each other and one another the necessary fortitude. I sometimes pray for all the ladies who read your posts and hope that maybe someday, God will send me one, the only one prepared and created just for me.

I am 33, attractive and smart male..could have many girls but I decided to wait and let God pick for me. I've picked once and failed. So I patiently wait now and improving myself to be a better man, a better husband, better father for the kids I will have one day. Instead of dating and have one night stands, i rather listen to the Bible and write love letters to that special woman I will meet someday.

Prayer can have a magnificent effect on us if we pray together. Everybody, we your readers, can unite in prayer for a bigger cause.



Dan said (April 28, 2013):

"Young men no longer think in terms of winning your friendship and love. They no longer need to marry or even commit to get sex. If you don't go to bed, another girl will."


There's a fallacy here. If sex is the reason a male seeks marriage, he's not marriage material anyway. He doesn't comprehend marriage. He's only using it as a springboard to more sex. He'll have affairs with married women, and/or pay prostitutes of one form or another.

Everyone that grew up in this co-oped culture has arrested development - a lack of maturity. 50 years ago they changed the definition of "Adult" and "Mature" from responsible grownup - to people who have a lot of sex - especially taboo sex. The lie is these people are more 'mature' because they'll throw anything away for the 'experience'.

The advise to young women is right. Value yourself above his misplaced sexual compulsion -- or yours. Girls who can do this may feel ignored for a while but you'll attract far better men. If you're giving it away you'll attract men with problems.


Matt said (April 28, 2013):


It has been a few years since then but I realize more and more everyday how deeply rooted feminism is in today's society.

The idea of courtship and long term relationship, let alone commitment, seems to be a thought of the past. I couldn't even begin to estimate how many women I have talked to that have complained how guys nowadays just want one thing and have no idea of commitment yet in the same breathe tell me how great it is to be "liberated" and "allowed to discover themselves" thanks to feminism.

American women seem to want to be put on a pedestal and love attention but they hate it when most men worship them. With this in mind, I don't even pay attention to these types of women and yet they get even more mad at me for not giving them that attention.

When I explain to them that they get mad when men give them attention yet even more mad when I don't, they don't know what to say. They don't even see the contradiction. They don't know what they want and I will take it one step further.

They don't like it when a male challenges them or their utopic vision. It shatters their feminist training that men must be afraid to challenge women for whatever reason. Every time I have "problems" or confrontations with women, usually women in their mid forties and in some position of authority, it is because I challenged their logic, reasoning or because I stood up to them. Not in a defiant way of course but just challenging their feminist ideas.

I can see that they are yearning for a "normal" male/female relationship but society has told them to be afraid of such a thing, avoid it like the plague or you might get married and start a family. It is sad.



Jen said (April 18, 2011):

Lisa, I'm 27 also but I haven't been in a relationship for quite some time because I've lost my attraction to modern men. Some people may think I'm feminist, asexual or hate men but they don't understand my core. I'm not a fan of the fake nice guy or the materialistic DC man who chooses his mate(s) based on earnings potential..or the wanna be bad boy people assume is confident... Wish they all could just be more natural.

But in a way I can understand why in some cases men want women to pay up. I mean, 85 % of females are materialistic to the bone and many don't even realize it because it's such a cultural norm. Of course I know nothing about you, but you should do a deep analysis of the situation, and if you are, prove to your man that you're on the same team by finding ways to save $. Learn some do it yourself crafts. Make him feel safe about being a future provider. Many men secretly DO want a HOMEMAKER,a complementary feminine force, but many times they'll seek Ms. Career because that option appears less risky than another typical all Western "
SAHM." (Stay-at-home-mom.)


Marcio from Brazil said (April 9, 2011):

We are sorry that women have lost their femininity. I cannot see how they could get it back. Women want to be powerful, sexually seductive and cunning enough to lead us astray, which is something hideous and disgusting that scares men away.

I was like the guy who had always dreamed of meeting that real nice lady who would respect me and love me. I have never met such woman I would like to give all my love to... They only love what they can get from you I quit! And I am 40 now (hard working, fun, communicative, family-minded, a decent son, no addictions, religious, old-fashioned guy - maybe that is why, as they are more attracted to the ones who can offer them fun and wastefulness).

Besides, a man is rarely the only bread-winner at home (thanks to women in the job market, making it cheaper to hire a worker because of the "double offer, half pay" stuff). Many men have to stand "powerful" , comfort-demanding, blackmailing wives who lead them to bankrupticy very often due to their silly excessive spending (which makes the wives' salary evaporate and leaves hubbies with the heavy duty of making ends meet - or else, they will be called losers, tramps, etc, no matter how honest and hard working they can be). And ladies complain if they have to play the man's role (thanks to the feminists). My experience as a former family court lawyer says so.

It is no use crying over spilled milk...

Men, play hard on girls. Be the decent ones since the ladies have quit being nice and decent! We, men, shall restore integrity (beginning with our own) because I cannot figure out how the ladies would do it.


Lisa said (May 21, 2008):

I can't tell you how sad & alone this article made me feel, even though I am a married woman, because I realized my husband makes me be the man.

I always wanted to marry & have kids young (I'm 27). Even though my parents really screwed their own relationship up, I instinctively knew that family is the center of life on earth. When I met my husband I was ecstatic to find another young, 20-something person who felt the same way about family & children. Now that we are married & settling into our lives together, my husband says I must continue to work & pay half of the bills, even though I want to quit my job, become a housewife & get pregnant so we can begin our family together. When we were first dating he said he wanted to have children as soon as possible. That was over 3 years ago. Now he says I must wait 5-6 more years to get pregnant. By then I will be in my thirties.


Christine said (April 7, 2008):

Several years ago, I gave up dressing like a man for religious reasons (and no, I am not a Muslim, although it is rather peculiar to see Muslim women in blue jeans and head scarves). Since the traditional garb of a Western woman is a skirt or dress to the ankles, I try to wear that. And I do try to dress neatly.

When I made this decision, I didn't think about how it would affect men. Nevertheless, its effect on men has been most touching. It brings out the best in them and they seem to like it. Some are even vocal in their approval; only one has said he disapproved. It has become obvious that men now have more respect for me than when I wore pants. Ladies, take note!

Giuseppe Cardinal Siri wrote a lengthy condemnation of women wearing pants. He said that it damaged women psychologically, and I agree. He also said that when women wear pants, it tends to corrupt relations between the sexes.

One of the weirdest modern sights is of a woman who is dressed like a man fussing with her hair and painting her face in order to make herself prettier. Prior to the 20th century, only prostitutes wore facepaint. And even prostitutes of that era would cringe at the sight of modern women.


Veronica (Transgendered) said (April 3, 2008):

Even though I'm transgender, I agree with the theme of most of your articles. The only thing I would want to add from my life experience, though, is that there are some of us (albeit very very few of us statistically) who are born not distinctly male & not distinctly female. Believe me, I have tried every "cure:" spiritual, psychological & even some physical discipline.

Nothing has worked except for transitioning to the other gender on the outside. I don't want to bore you with my own individual details: it's too long of a story and filled with many different twists that would take several pages even to explain superficially.

So, I would only want to respond to your article by saying that what you talk about in getting back to connatural male-female relations & roles is absolutely true for the vast majority (99%) of people -- but not for all. What it really boils down to for every one of us (even the 100%) is that we have to learn to accept everyone as a precious individual and creature of God with his/her own very specific gifts and traits. Until we do that, society will continue to be polarized between different superficial (and not so superficial) competing "camps"/tribes. This is in fact what the super-elite want to do: divide and conquer us.

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Veronica,

I appreciate this note which I posted. I can accept that there a few people like you who were born in the wrong bodies and deserve our acceptance. I also appreciate that you see I am not talking about these people but about an attack on the majority of normal heterosexuals. Thanks for your message.


Ken in Australia said (April 2, 2008):

Dear Henry love your work, here is a poem I have started (my first and only
one) but I can't finish it, each time I try I just break down over the
treachery that has happened to the male to make him feel ashamed and a
monster. I need to share it with someone and your the only person know that
understands the grief I feel.

Because I am a Man

Because I am a man I will stand my ground at The Alamo or Roark’s Drift.
Because I am a man I climb back into my Spitfire one more time.
Because I am a man I will stand to attention on the heaving deck of the
Birkenhead as the lifeboats pull away.
Because I am a man I abstain while my wife and children eat to ease their
hunger.
Because I am a man I will take up arms to protect my family, my community
and my group but of my own free will but not at the behest of despots and
tyrants.
Because I am a man I will bend my knee or bow my head to no one.
Because I am a man I will not seek to shift the blame that is mine.
Because I am a man I will seek to honour my debts and obligations.
Because I am a man I will respect woman and protect children
Because I am a man I will speak and act true
Because I am a man I will act with both courage and compassion.
Because I am a man my integrity is more important than my life.
Because if I am not man, I am nothing


Anna said (April 2, 2008):

The problem is ( and you have to grasp this): Not all men treat women with the basic respect they deserve as human beings, Feminists do not represent us all by any means, and it has all gone too far. Angry self interested women are just a reaction to some of the arrogance of sexist men, albeit mistakenly directed to all men and not just the bad ones.

I am a woman who loves men, wants to be with one for the rest of my life. But even alot of men are now convinced that to attract a woman they have to appear as eaqually aggressive.

It's all gone too far. Men need to learn to be courteous again and women need to relax a bit. This problem is on BOTH sides and not just with the looney feminists that ruin it for us all.

But to asume that most women are feminists and most men are decent and respectful of a woman is supreme folly. The real problem is shared between sexist arrogant men and stupid angry and arrogant women.

The rest of us have to suffer as a result.


Mark said (April 2, 2008):

Your excellent articles outline the sad facts now facing our societies in the west. The breakdown of family life in the UK as well, especially amongst the lower economic groups is taking it's toll.

Youth knife and gun Crime is escalating in our cities, and this can in most cases, according to the real sociological experts, and not the "experts" be attributed to the breakdown in traditional family life and fatherlessness with the discipline this gives to children, particularly males.

This is why young people are joining gangs which substitute for family life. It is up to people to rise up and as a power in numbers to oppose this happening, and to reestablish family life, based on heterosexual commitment.

What is feared is the rise of the bourgeoise, as Marx said, so this is being discouraged, as you say. Marxist ideology is 19th Century outdated and doesn't achieve a community society.


Kevin said (April 2, 2008):

Thanks for the great article. I've concluded that the modern western women in fact really isn't a woman at all anymore. Feminism has smothered and destroyed the very thing that makes a women a women and that is Femininity. The most graceful, delicate, sweet and beautiful characteristics of the women has been destroyed; the very things that gave a women her power.

Those things are what are attractive to men. When was the last time you saw a women or girl wearing a dress or skirt? When was the last time you saw a girl with a flower or a ribbon in her hair? When was the last time you witnessed that sweet timid innocence and a blush at being observed? When was the last time you saw any traces of the most powerful manifestation of God's beauty on this earth: A feminine women????

The women for which thousands of poems were written and millions of songs sung. The women which artists painted and sculptors copied in pure white marble? The well mannered, soft spoken, princess of our dreams who overwhelms our heart with love by a discreet bashful smile and a brief greeting. We poor men of the modern age have only the remaining Victorian paintings and some old works of 19th century literature left where we can get some remaining glimpses of her.

All we see now are men in women's bodies all dressed in the standard masculine uniform of tight jeans and sweat shirts worn with an almost religious fanaticism. O sweet feminine women !! We miss you !! Come back to this less beautiful world from wherever you went and bring back that spiritual inspiration and manifestation of God's most beautiful creation which is you. It's gotten quite lonely here.


Robert said (April 2, 2008):

Henry, I would also like to say you're doing yet another good thing letting men tell of their experiences with the movement that has affected their lives more profoundly than any other-feminism. The media, the arts, education, and the courts and ALL of government, have been one big support group for women for decades. Nobody's going to do that for us men but us ourselves.


Anthony said (April 2, 2008):

Beautifully written Henry!

I had the shock of my life when I entered my late teens and early twenties and discovered that most of the girls that I came across drank too much, took drugs, slept around, used foul language and acted basically like stupid young men. Although I was physically attracted to some of these girls I found it impossible to form meaningful relationships with them as I could never foresee women like these being a loving and caring partner nor a decent and nurturing mother to my children. Instead I just looked on as my friends used them for sex and moved on to the next group of all too willing young "ladies".

As my early twenties progressed to my late twenties and I still hadn't formed any meaningful relationships with women, I started thinking that perhaps the problem lay with me. Maybe modern women weren't interested in responsible, caring guys any more who treated them well?

Luckily for me I met a beautiful young Cambodian girl who's mind hadn't been poisoned by all the feminist nonsense that had corrupted the minds of most of the other women I had known. She doesn't drink, do drugs, smoke, sleep around and she was more than willing to enter an exclusive relationship where I was her number one priority as she was mine. After a two year relationship, we were married two months ago.

As for the girls that I had known from my younger days, at last report many of them are alcoholics (although they would deny this) and many of them are still struggling to find decent partners, while they they were busy with careers and partying, most of the decent guys had moved on.

The ones that did marry are having all sorts of trouble trying to conceive as years of abuse as well as spending the most fertile years of their lives on the pill, has caused havoc with their fertility.

Oh the joys of feminism!
Anthony (Melbourne, Australia)


Henry Makow received his Ph.D. in English Literature from the University of Toronto in 1982. He welcomes your comments at