MM said (March 13, 2010):

The "foreign wife" issue raises many racial issues. White men should marry white women and have white babies. And blacks should have black babies, and orientals and Jews and Arabs and Colombians, and everybody else on planet earth, should simply make their own babies after their own race. What is so radical about that idea? Homogeneous babies grow up knowing who they are and they aren't separated from a thousand years of national identity by the reckless act of race mixing. But don't ask people today to care about their children. The poor little brats should be grateful they weren't cut into pieces and vacuumed-out by the state funded abortionist. The NWO breaks up families, communities, and nations, and the mixed race kids that are produced are in turn cynically used justify the further imposition of a one-world borderless police state.

Larry said (March 12, 2010):

am a Canadian and five and half years ago I found a women that was perfect for me and she was Colombian. There are probably 10 horror stories for every success story regarding women married to Gringos. As has been stated if you don't do your homework then expect to fail, as it is with education of any type.

My wife and I met on line in a chat room. We talked for about 3 months before we even exchanged photos. I needed a vacation and decided to venture to Colombia to meet her and experience the country, and one trip led to another and at the end of the second trip I knew this was a woman worth moving a mountain for.

Perhaps I am one of the lucky ones but I have found a women who is not only attractive but is truly beautiful to the core. She is in a select group here in Colombia. I am not saying most of the women are bad, are evil or are gold or green card diggers. There are certainly those types here. I have seen them too many times to count. Most of the Gringos I see here though are looking for the trophy, the walking BLING if you will and as long as they have the money they will find just that.

This is a culture you need to understand and unfortunately most that come here looking for a wife and some cases a husband do not look into what the culture here is all about. The women as has been mentioned are deeply family oriented. It was strange to me at first that many children live at home until they get married, in Canada the children can not wait to leave the home as soon as they graduate high school. Family is the most important thing for a women here and is important for the males as well.

I see that with my wife, her family is very small, but there is not a day goes by that she does not know what is going on in each of their respective lives. I think this is wonderful and one of the reasons I love the woman. In fact she has taught me to be a little more associated with my family, something that was weaned away from me from having several failed relationships in Canada.

I have no regrets about having married this woman. I do know that I had I taken her back to Canada to live instead of making it work here in Colombia there would have been a strong possiblity that this marriage would not have worked. I am afraid that while talk is cheap in regard to family there, when the rubber meets the road most men and women in North America will put career ahead of the family. I have seen it, lived it and never did win the T-shirt.

Dani (Female) said (March 12, 2010):

We get back what we put out. The law of attraction, as it's called. There are pretty, honest, decent women still to be found in the Western world (and you've received at least two letters from two readers attesting to finally finding their Mrs. Right in their own backyard after going around the world) so if a guy is going to a third world country to find a (often times barely legal) female to be his wife then there's usually a little bit more going on there. Not always, but probably in many cases.

In my opinion it's being a predator, even if they can't/won't acknowledge it. So if you're a predator, then don't be surprised to receive the same treatment in return by opportunistic females who see through the charade.

I once worked for a short bit of time at a law firm in south Florida where one of the physically ugly, socially nerdy attorneys who was in his 50s sought out an 18 year old "wife" from the Czech Republic.

When I look at that I just see a dirty old predator looking for some young, easy, free, hot tail that he'd never be able to score in the U.S. and who thought he could accomplish this by going to a country that has a struggling economy, using the "Financially Established Successful White Male" bait as the lure.

From what I heard it all blew up in his face, and after a year the barely legal teen girl was so homesick (and probably so repulsed at what basically amounted to being a prostitute to a physically repulsive man) that she ran back to the Czech Republic.

These guys probably think they're playing the girls, "Oh look, young, sweet, free hot tail who will come running when they see the Successful White Male pulling out a wad of dough!" but the girl is really playing them.

Everybody has a motive, some of these guys just haven't acknowledged that they had their shadow side motivations too, and are still being playing the resentful victim.

I think the guys who land the foreign girls/women who turn out to be genuine, and who find themselves in a successful, honest marriage without game playing (ie, they're not being a predator who's secretly on the hunt for barely legal, easy, desperate females) are probably honest and genuine themselves. They got back what they put out.

Rick from FL said (March 12, 2010):

This guy gives you the impression, he is the only one who end up with a female who turned out half decent and blame all men for not doing it his way. To begin with, I have been to Colombia several times, while working for the State Department. Women there, love ANYTHING NOT Colombian.

They know you are a gringo, a one way out of their miserable existence.The problem is, if you don't know how they operate, you will fall for their tricks and fall flat on your face. Once you realized your infinite mistake, it's already too late. You bring them to the States, which is a very lengthy and expensive process. When you go to work, they are out there meeting and talking to everybody. They meet Bertha and she will proceed to tell them how we do things here in America.

"Well honey, let me tell you, this IS America and we do not practice this "fidelity" B.S. Your body is yours and you can do with it as you please and whom you please with. Now, if he tries to have sex with you and you don't want to, call 911 and tell them he tried to rape you". (that's the first phone number they learn).These colombians have a reputation of being as evil as they come. Once they get their "green card", they hire a barracuda(attorney) and they take everything you have EVER worked for and there is nothing you can do about it .

Now, if you have kids, and they make sure to get pregnant the first time you looked at them, they will squeeze money out of you for the next 18 years. Of course, this is providing they don't make "false allegations" making your life a living hell/nightmare for the next ten years. To make matters worse, the system is "backing" them 100%, with every evil deed they can ever come up with. This is a lot more than just a "mistake". Finally, between the evil ex and the family courts system, there are times when you wished you were dead. There is no "behind" worth that kind of torture.

Robert said (March 12, 2010):

I think your discussion is progressing.
It's gone from a little naieve about how
Asian women are so much more loving
and feminine to more realistic about
oversimplifying the problem of the sexes--
and just leaving the country...

I wish there would more work done
domestically to establish norms of
brotherhood, where men congregate
to cultivate shared consciousness in
sports, music skills development and
philosophical discussions about manhood,
in privacy from women, but independent
of financial/statist interest.