Tiger Woods - A Lesson for all Men

December 18, 2009


charlie-woods-tiger-woods-son-pictures.jpgby Henry Makow Ph.D.

(This revises my March 2008 article on
Eliot Spitzer, to apply to Tiger Woods.)



Tiger Wood's
downfall contains an almost Biblical  lesson for all men: Don't be controlled by your dick. It will ruin your life.

Tiger Woods had everything: a beautiful wife and family, athletic achievement and fortune, and the respect of the whole world. Why throw it away for skank?

This seems to be the year for athletes self-destructing over women.

Last summer, retired (and married) Tennessee Titan quarterback Steve McNair was shot dead by a girlfriend who feared he was going to dump her. She then shot herself.

Today, Cincinnati Bengal receiver Chris Henry died during a domestic dispute with his fiance. And closer to home, Winnipeg Blue Bomber coach Mike Kelly got fired today after roughing up an ex-girlfriend (who probably attacked him first.)

The lesson for men: Sow your wild oats (not in hook-ups but in longer-term relationships.) Then, marry for life. Find a woman who is naturally traditional and accepts your leadership. Devote yourself to her and to your children. Restore to marriage and family the sanctity they deserve.


DE-FANGING SEX


Sex is a powerful force. Either we control it or it (and woman) controls us.  Like Samson, Woods forfeited his power for sex.

Men are fighting a powerful meme created by the banker-owned mass media. Although sexual attraction is part of a natural instinct to propagate, the media has turned it into an entertainment, therapy and commodity.

It proclaims anonymous sex is an end in itself, meaningful and liberating. Men have been programmed by media culture as much as by our hormones. We need to question the assumption that young women and sex are the be-all and end-all. A man's work should be his primary focus.  
 
It's time we deconstructed anonymous sex. Somehow, females have gotten the upper hand. Much like the diamond cartel, they have hoodwinked males into thinking that a commodity as commonplace and plentiful as p---y is rare and precious. It's not.  In Andy Warhol's words, "Sex is the biggest nothing in the world."

I'll never understand why a man would owe a woman for sexual gratification. Why shouldn't she owe him? Sex is just as necessary for her. What fools men are. Don't they know that all cats are gray in the dark?

The excitement for a man is a woman's response to him. How responsive can a woman be to a hook-up? How satisfying can it be if, as in Eliot Spitzer's case, the meter is running?  In anonymous sex, both parties are miming what they think should be happening, rather than admitting that the experience is empty and degrading.


IN DEFENSE OF MASTURBATION

Masturbating is a far better solution for single men compared to anonymous sex. Do I have to list the advantages? You can have your flawless woman and fantasy. You don't have to worry about satisfying her. Afterward, she's gone instantly. And there's no chance of pregnancy or STD. Oh yeah. It's FREE. And often it's better. (I'm talking about relieving the pressure from time to time, not addictive behavior.)

Let's deconstruct the fertile female while we're at it.  Having lost her ability to love men and children, young women today are in danger of becoming obsolete. They are scrawny men, with narrow shoulders, a couple of vestigial feed bags (filled with silicon instead of milk, symbolic), and some unsightly jungle below. 

Young women are pretty much physically identical. As one wag said, "Put a clock in it."

What other creatures get by largely on their looks? Only a narcissist would imagine her looks are exceptional. There are millions just like her. 

Despite the tedious repetitive nature of the product, male yokels have pandered for it for centuries. 

The only thing that truly differentiates women is beauty, grace, talent, intelligence, character and personality.  Yet most young women today ignore these and compete on the basis of sex appeal.

Similarly, most men are unable to look beyond the physical artifice. Yet understanding the human being inside is the key to success or failure.  

I love feminine women, the kind that marry and sacrifice for husband and family, the kind that know that feminine is the opposite of masculine.   

We live in a culture that promotes arrested development by inflating the status of women and teaching men to obey them, with sex as their dog treat. Of course women eventually tire of this, and men end up neutered and alone.


CONCLUSION

Tiger Woods spent too much time overachieving and didn't develop emotionally. Part of that requires we get sex out of our system.  Realize how truly mundane it is. That there is no "there" there. With all the sex available, with all the porn, when will men finally learn that casual sex is a bore?

Men must also realize that no woman can give them what they really seek--- themselves. You get that by serving God (i.e. a spiritual ideal.)

Romantic love also is a crock. Women are just companions on the journey.  Real love is based on meeting mutual needs over a long period of time. It is based on sticking with someone when they're down. It's based on loyalty and trust.

In closing, let's learn from Tiger Wood's folly. Sex is used to control men (and women.) When we control our sex drive, we are free to serve a higher master.
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This seems a good time to plug my friend Julian Lee's website www.celibacy.info   dedicated to teaching men the benefits of abstinence. My interview with Julian is available in my Broadcast section.

Related- 
"Managing the Male Sex Drive"

Sanford and Sons - Where Have All the Grown Ups Gone?





 




Comments for "Tiger Woods - A Lesson for all Men"

Tiger Woods said (December 19, 2009):

Masturbation is a mortal sin. It's not the answer because the thoughts of lust are needed and it certainly can be an additive habit. The solution is to follow Jesus Christ who is the way, the truth, and the life and to stay away from Play Boy, porno, and the rest which are used by the devil to tempt one to commit fornication, adultery, etc. If Tiger Woods used his extra time to be with his wife and children then he wouldn't be in the scandal he is now.


Rick said (December 19, 2009):

I often listen to the Alan Watt's 'Cuttingthroughthematrix' radio show. He explains how Bertram Russell experimented with orphan children on encouraging early sexual contacts.

He found that this inhibited the child to bond with a partner in adult life. I believe this is one reason why sex 'education' is being targeted at the young. This agenda to sexualize us beyond normal development has been planned for years. It's aim is to fragment society by destroying the family unit and enable effective control of the individual.

We are being bombarded and attacked in every area of our lives and we need to let everyone become aware of what and why it's happening.

I want to remind you and readers the article on pornography by the late Philip Jones.

Basically we are being purposely demeaned and dehumanized by a plan to generate sex addiction on both male and females. When we let ourselves be controlled by our sex drive (which is constantly bombarded with images both open and hidden) we cannot build up true loving relationships with a partner. Over time we will also become full of self loathing for this addiction that will control us (men for a sexual high and women for the material power it can bring).

In this state we cannot connect with our spiritual God and enlighten ourselves as growing old in life should allow. We will become no more than dumb, sex focused, shallow beings. Who would want to do such a thing to mankind? Please read Phil Jones text on this.

NB I believe the NWO is purposely generating hatred towards all Jews to ferment a backlash similar to pre WW2. All good men and women must make themselves aware of this and realize the true enemy is an evil occult sect that is made up of all races. I ask all to please continue to educate yourselves and your fellow men.


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Lloyd said (December 19, 2009):

I always enjoy your writing; thank you.

When I was 11 or 12 years old, my Sunday School teacher in a Baptist Church told us this story:

"A cat walked across a train track and a train cut off a piece of his tail; startled, the cat quickly turned
and the train ran over its neck, cutting its head off. The Moral of this story: Boys, don't ever lose your
head over a little piece of tail."

I wish I had remembered his admonition. The Bible is FULL of stories of men destroyed by sexual desires from
Adam to Samson, to David; and the ONLY story of putting SEX where it should be was Joseph.

God Bless you, Brother.


Dani said (December 18, 2009):

Consider the idea that Tiger Woods is a target of MK-Ultra, or a related mind control program which enabled him to play the game of golf at a level that no other human has ever been able to.

http://www.thetruthseeker.co.uk/article.asp?ID=11799

(Interestingly enough, this link also links to your work as well, endorsing both.)

He probably didn't have much of a choice in the matter if this is true. Tiger was trained since he was a toddler on how to be perfect with the club. And if this was the case then everything about what has happened to him over the past month is not what it seems to be, and his reasons for why he behaves as he does would not pertain to whatever it is you're saying. It's more than just "oh, I'm a victim of my dick."

There are no simplistic, pat explanations for most of what is going on out there, even though many would like there to be as it suits them when they're writing their Internet articles. Downfalls always seem to be timed, with puppet masters determining what happens to who, and when. The reasons behind them are not what they seem to be on the surface. It's a world that the average person can't comprehend. The same goes for all the female entertainers having their mental breakdowns and going nuts, Britney, Lindsay, etc., telling the world about their multiple personalities, shaving their heads, flashing their panty-less parts to the paparazzi.

The average person can only conceive of a simplistic explanation that's based on the world that they find themselves in, but the real explanation might be something they couldn't understand because it's so far removed from their own reality. Same here with Tiger. I don't think his situation is what you seem to think it is. Pat explanations and lectures about not thinking with your dick don't suffice.


Roberta said (December 18, 2009):

I cured my sexual imbalance and also completely self-controlled my menopause through the Daoist practices of cultivating sexual energy. It is so simple, works, has for thousands of years and takes SEX and enlightens the energy into the subtle creative tour de force it is: imagination for higher manifestation of LOVE when cultivated as power and not force.

Should you wish me to, I can create a video of the practices and put them on my blog at http://galeria.blogs.com/godsmadmen/

for all the world to have for FREE since it is, after all, simply ENERGY (sex ;-) and therefore, not an evil when LIVE is found in the co-creation of genius birthed in the form of individually the male and female bringing balance into the equation first, and then the coupling is a balance which cannot be disrupted by any outside force since the inner is completely grounded in our first identity: sexual.


R said (December 18, 2009):

I am 63 years old and have a strong sex drive which for most of my life had completely defeated me in all my efforts to manage it either through failed self-control or various kinds of indulgence. The turning point came when I met an enlightened mystic who taught me about tantric sex. It's a very deep topic which forms an integral part of certain types of meditation practice. To make a long story short, my life has been completely transformed, and my wife and I (after my two previously failed marriages) live what can truly be described as marital bliss. It's an art I strongly recommend to all my Western brothers who are the slave, rather than the master, of their sex drive. A warning though: tantra can only be practiced in a relationship based on genuine love, companionship, and respect, all gifts of the spirit. It cannot work for the casual-minded.


Judy said (December 18, 2009):

As you know, I value your website and its contributions highly. However, a caveat on poor Tiger.If Tiger were getting at home real love and real sex (I know, it's a long and complex subject) then he wouldn't be nearly as tempted by casual pussy. He chose a trophy wife, i.e., the whitest, blondest, blue eye-ist woman he could find. Many successful black men do this much to the consternation of black women. Her motivations can only be conjecture. Whatever the case, a deep love was obviously missing.Sex without love has destroyed many more men (and women) than Tiger. Perhaps France will welcome him with open arms.


Sandeep said (December 18, 2009):

If you choose to disobey God and his laws, you will fall hard. He told us long time ago what will happen if we disobey. Here it is. How can a man, who seemed to have everything going for him, be so stupid and brain-frozen to risk it all and destroy himself eventually because of some tools like porn stars and small-brained, money sucking vampires? What a beautiful wife he had. What nice children he had. Now he is losing it all. One really has to be on the path of stupidity for doing this. Good men can't allow for themselves to be self-destroyed because of some outside-stimulus like beauty and "penis-thinking". How naive. How dumb. How developmentally arrested. How sad. Think into the future. Think what you do with your behavior. Everyone's choices here on earth affects EVERYONE of us, especially your loved ones.. It is beyond hurt... Don't allow stupidity and idiocy to spread.

About the masturbation you promote: I agree with you somewhat. The only thing I would add is that in a earthly sense it is the best choice one can make (no worries, it really is better sometimes, no diseases), but I would doubt it is what the Bible teaches us. But again, you are, in my opinion, still giving the very best advise that is out there if you really need to get it out.


Edwin said (December 18, 2009):

Commiserating with Tiger Woods. I've been there done that, Tiger woods is younger than me. A beautiful wife with children that young means Tiger Woods gets NO SEX at home, even with all his money.

It is a total crying hypocritical and uncaring of the USA society to unrealistically expect that an Alpha Male as Tiger Woods or any male be dedicated to only have sex with 1 wife who realistically cannot cater to his frequent sexual needs because female biology does not allow her to.

Alpha Males need more sexual partners, this has been true for all human history and pre-history. Tiger woods can afford it. In non-contraceptive times, Tiger deserves more wives, he deserves more children, he will have more sex, more women will demand his sperm from him.... he is a rich darn champion!

Your monogamous fantasies stink and have never worked. Monogamy is a farce. Monogamy is really 1 wife + mistresses + prostitutes. Or better yet, many girlfriends and never marry, therefore it is all LEGAL.

Your Christian twisted monogamy point of view is precisely why I strive all MY SONS will never marry. That way they can avoid the monogamy bullsh*t which today is pointless since 1 wife on the average will only give you 1 or 2 children. Any mistress can do that. So maybe my marriage is not in the best interest of my sons nor of my grand fathership. In 2030, one son can probably have 4 girlfriends with 2 children each which means 8 grandchildren for me.

Life is about making more life. Christian monogamy used to make sense when women bore 6 to 7 children. But today's 1-2 children just shows monogamy is NOT WORTH IT.


P said (December 18, 2009):

I think you should get off sex and marriage, Henry. This isn't your area of expertise! "Sow your wild oats" - so who are the women you are sowing your wild oats with? And what happens to them? It's a double standard!

And then you go on to "all cats are grey in the dark" !!

It's hard to find the right balance. Matchmade marriages are quite sensible sometimes. If the couple is moral and inexperienced I imagine it would work out in the long run. I know a Sikh couple who were matchmade. They seem to be relatively happy. It depends on your luck I suppose.

I've known a lot of people and I know that many women suffer for years. Physical abuse, sexual abuse, unsatisfactory sex, seriously maladjusted couples. Some men don't want sex, believe it or not, Henry. Some are voyeurs or latent homosexuals. Some husbands don't compare well with previous lovers. By that time there are children. What do you do? Leave him? You're stuck. Life is not always easy. I don't think masturbation is a good solution either. It's also addictive and you are less likely to search for a woman. One of my friends - who is gorgeous - is stuck with a man who watches porn in the basement - and probably masturbates. She's too proud to jump on him so she goes on being frustrated and lonely. She lives in Asia so there is no way she can find an outlet/flirtation without damaging her reputation and losing the respect of her grown children.


Dave L said (December 18, 2009):

I read your article about Tiger. With all due respect, I'm not sure you know what has happened.

With Tiger, as it was with Clinton, Hugh Grant, as well as certain others...it's about the "risk" and the 'rush" that comes with risky behavior...there is an element within that recognizes the catastrophic consequences of getting caught that increases this risk and subsequently increases the rush...a rush like no other.

When Jay Leno asked Hugh Grant; "What in the hell were you thinking?" Jay asked from a "normal" perspective and Hugh realized he had no clue how to answer the question...after all, just how do you explain this incredible rush and have it make any sense...

I'm now 53, once played professional baseball and scouted, I was a nobody in professional baseball but I went through about 20 plus years of risky sexual behavior that would baffle your mind...I survived and have now gone 5 years abstinence. Not bad for a guy who once came 11 times in one day.

By the grace and mercy of God Almighty and the forgiveness of His son, this wretched sinner was saved...after nearly 25 years of abuse I went cold turkey off drugs and sex (No rehab!) ...a feat only accomplished by the power of God.

People often wonder if I am lonely, as I live by myself and have very few friends...I'm at peace with the knowledge Jesus Christ saved me from self-destruction and although I am alone I am not lonely...peace and forgiveness are wonderful.


R said (December 18, 2009):

I studied Traditional Chinese Medicine for several years.

One crucial thing I learned in my studies was that habitual masturbation was considered very harmful to men, especially later in life when male energies are on the decline. Crucially, this doesn't apply to women because a women doesn't ejaculate during sex; she conserves vital life force because nature intended women to nourish and nurture and ultimately give birth to new life.

However, when a man ejaculates he he expels vital essence from his body. Although during sex with a woman this loss of vital life-force is compensated to some degree by a mutual exchange of essence between man and woman.

This doesn't happen with masturbation, which is why repeated, habitual masturbation is regarded as harmful to men's health. Leading later in life to loss male vitality.

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Thanks R,

I mention it as a stop gap for young single men.

Henry


Dan said (December 18, 2009):

If Tiger would have gotten his advice in youth from old black working men instead of rich old white guys on golf courses he would have known, "don't follow yo pecker, son".


Joe said (December 18, 2009):

Dear Dr. Makow: I have been interested in reading your website recently but today's rendering of human sexuality falls way short of leading a holy life of Christ. Your quip about "sow your wild oats" is the same as the current philosophy of todays hook up culture. If all men "sow your(their) wild oats" then we become the tool of the NWO and be victims much like Chris Henry, sowing our oats and receiving our just rewards. You also mention men and perhaps women should masturbate to relieve themselves from the desires of illicit sex but this again falls short of what the Catholic Church teaches in the Catechism #2352 that "The deliberate use of sexual faculty, for whatever reason, outside of marriage is essentially contrary to it's purpose". I just thought I'll bring this to your attention.

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Thanks Joe,

Sow your wild oats with your wife then!

H


Marty said (December 18, 2009):

Tiger Woods - A Lesson for all Men .... quite simply ..... bravo!
I'm putting this link in my Facebook. I run into this all the time being a
musician here in Cleveland, OH.

I've learned a long time ago -
"When we control our sex drive, we are free to serve a higher master."

I have one daughter. My only child. I raised her good, and right. How could I
as a father lead my daughter to believe what I say, or in fact respect any man,
or even myself, if I was to run around on my wife. I actually have to become a
bigger and greater man, to save other men. Think about that.


Henry Makow received his Ph.D. in English Literature from the University of Toronto in 1982. He welcomes your comments at