Women Don't Want Commitment, Man Discovers
January 24, 2015
"Serial daters" -
"My experience leads me to believe that a majority of women
by "George Smith"
I am a 47-year old father of two teenagers, currently living in a large Midwestern city.
I own a successful real estate investment business. My marriage of 17 years ended recently. She cited my excessive drinking as the cause but the truth was that we were just two very different people who could no longer live under the same roof.
After the dust had settled, I decided to embark on a journey into the world of online dating. I had no idea what to expect. It had been 25 years since I had been on a date.
Now after a year, I have realize that dating has many pitfalls. You must know what you want at the beginning. In my case, I want a long-term relationship. I was surprised to discover that many women in the dating world don't share this goal.
My first experience with online dating was with a 45-year old woman named Vicki. I found her attractive and smart. We began the process of courtship, exchanging text messages and having phone conversations. Everything seem to be going great. We had dinner together and talked for three hours. The next day we resumed our communication. I thought that our relationship was definitely heading in the right direction.
I asked her out for a second dinner, via text message. A day passed with no reply. Several days passed. Same thing. I wondered if I should contact her again, but decided against it. I was insulted. I went through the usual rationalizations. Maybe she didn't get my text. It was stressful. How could she suddenly turn me off like a light switch?
Months passed and I could see her checking out my profile online. I realized that Vicki, after eight years of dating, had no intention of being in a relationship. She just liked the idea of chatting and going out on an occasional date.
I had two more similar experiences. One was with a girl named Aimee. Just like Vicki, she was attractive and smart. We began our near daily routine of texting, combined with weekly phone calls. Yet, the communication was always fairly superficial, not because I wanted it to be, but rather because she didn't seem open going deeper.
We went out on a date. I thought it went fine. I asked her out again. She agreed to go, then abruptly stopped returning my text messages. I had fallen, yet again, for the serial dater. Aimee, like Vicki, had also been dating for about eight years.
I fully acknowledge that often the chemistry is not there and things fizzle out after a couple of months.
I could have said something that turned these women off, but I don't think so. I'm usually pretty careful about that. Perhaps I should have flirted more, but as a novice dater, I don't have much recent game experience. I think that deep down, some people just don't want a relationship. They like the dating and attention, but have no desire to go any further. Seldom are they ever upfront about this to their pursuer.
Dating is exhausting. You can invest a great deal of time and energy into something that yields no fruit.
The point is that we should all learn to quickly identify these individuals. Don't believe what they tell you about being interested in a relationship; you have to look at their dating history.
Perhaps people don't want to invest the time and hard work. Maybe they fear commitment. Feminism could certainly be the culprit. My experience leads me to believe that a majority of women simply just don't need a man except to procreate. I affectionately call them "pump and dump" women. I know it sounds jaded. But it's all I've seen so far.
Currently I find myself being tempted by yet another beautiful and professionally successful woman named Michelle. Her relationship history consists of two years of marriage and a child out of wedlock, followed by six years of dating.
What do you think the chances are that I am the prince that she's been waiting for? I think her past is the best indicator of what she will do in the future. The flip side of it is maybe she's ready for a change. But change of this magnitude is hard for anyone. I'll keep you posted.
Makow Comment: These women are self sufficient economically and don't know what they want. You have to provide leadership. You want a woman who is submissive. The essence of the male-female relationship is that the man convinces a woman to do what he wants and rewards her with his love. Try making demands. You might be surprised at the result.
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