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Marriage-Minded Young Women are "Depressed & Anxious"

January 6, 2018


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(From her best friend's wedding, AZ is second from the right) 

AZ has been aware of the social engineering since college. "I'm 31 now. I grew up in a Christian family and as soon as I went to college noticed how corrupt people and the values were. I inherently knew from a young age all I wanted was a husband and family. Yet I was always ridiculed or told I'm "too sensitive" as a woman. I wish I was more ignorant. Knowing all these truths has made me very sad."

by AZ
(henrymakow.com) 


Life as a 31-year-old single female is actually not so glamorous. The media--music, television, and movies would make most people believe we are Carrie Bradshaws. However, most of my friends and I in this situation are depressed and anxious. Have we missed the boat of true love and marriage? 

Where does one find it? Tinder? All of the online dating seem more like casual hookup services then people wanting to form a lifetime love.

I have lived in two of the most liberal cities in America, San Francisco and New York City. I remember coming right out of University at the age of 21 being very confused about the world as a woman. 

Looking back on it now. a lot of my seeking days were really me just wanting to find a home and love with a masculine man. Everyone kept telling me to advance my career and be independent, but I was never truly happy in my soul. I knew something was missing. That this way of life was a lie to my feminine heart.

My years spent in San Francisco consisted of me delving into every spiritual practice I could in order to "find myself". What I really needed was to find was a good mentor to ground me and teach me to hold standards for the men coming in and out of my life. 

I didn't have much luck dating in the Bay Area because most of the men were very feminized and or they were homosexual. I never met a man that seemed masculine and like a good leader. 

I eventually fled that city after I sat in Dolores Park one day after work and realized as a heterosexual single woman, I would be single forever if I stayed there. Back to the east coast, I went.

Ahhh New York City. Manhattan. The playground of the arts, food, music, architecture. Yet, it is also the center for selfishness, materialism, greed, and narcissism. I went there because where else does a single 26-year-old woman go to forge her career? 

The day I signed my lease, my body was trembling because I knew I didn't want to call this place home. It isn't exactly the cabin in the woods with a masculine man I always envisioned for myself. 

Here I was in the middle of a soulless city attempting again to make a life on my own. Subways. Dirty streets. Full of liberal hipsters. SJW. None of this gave my feminine soul any sort of reprise. 

I began dating in Manhattan and most of the men were utterly disappointing. Overworked--check. Narcissist-check. Expected sex on the first date-check. 

Most of the men I met were more into themselves, would ask how much money I made, or just expected sex right away. I was burned out, so I decided to give up on dating. A few months later after my lease ended I moved out of the city. I realized most of the major cities in America were infiltrated with people who would not be suitable as a marriage partner.

Here I am still single, modest, believe in God and everything pure and true in the world. 

Yet, most men have been taught to want women who are attention whores, Instagram obsessed, and would not be good wives or mothers. 

What is a woman to do in modern day America to find a good man to build the life that God intended?

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Comments for "Marriage-Minded Young Women are "Depressed & Anxious" "

AZ (author) said (January 9, 2018):

This is great Henry! Keep defining whatever comes your way. I enjoy reading these. I noticed a lot of comments about the picture and well we had strapless dresses for my friend's wedding. Some of the commenters are ultra conservative and a little ridiculous in my opinion. Probably should have sent one with the top of our dresses showing--with the way it was cropped we do look half naked. Oh well.


I noticed a comment that said my article was full of contradictions and that was the point of my article. Women are living lives that are contradictions to their true natures because they and I were brainwashed by the feminist agenda.


Angela said (January 9, 2018):

This article is full of contradictions, though I feel for the woman.

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The first is the photo. Here we have a gaggle of pretty girls who appear to be naked. Has it not occurred to AZ that if she wishes to find a good husband, a real strong and gentle man, she needs firstly to dress modestly. Why is it that brides and their attendants need to appear in this way?

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She knew “this way of life was a lie to my feminine heart.”, yet she made her way to New York because “where else does a single 26-year-old woman go to forge her career?” Really single girls serious about marriage do not need to forge a career.

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So “what is a woman to do to find a good man to build the life that God intended?”

Live as God intended. She “grew up in a Christian family”, yet she delv(ed) into every spiritual practice I could in order to "find myself". My advice would be to find a traditional Catholic Church where you can discover the real meaning of life and where the women are expected to dress modestly – pretty modest dresses that will attract a masculine man and the men are expected to dress respectfully like men.

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I went through all that. I wish her well.


DV said (January 7, 2018):

I can’t help but sigh on this one. The men out here are no better off than the women. They have all bought the lies from our beloved social engineers and by doing so unwittingly propagate this insanity. Frankly I’m astounded that AZ is still single and not married. She’s gorgeous and smart to boot, and… she believes in the Lord - the number one quality to recommend a woman. But unfortunately for her, most men nowadays have zero belief in God. They believe in cell phones, social media and yes tinder. Its disgusting really. And this of course applies to women as well. They have effectively isolated the masculine man from the feminine woman.

I could find a woman TODAY if only I was interested in a vapid, self-obsessed, social media addicted, selfie-poser… But that is anathema to any intelligent man seeking a LIFE MATE, who LOVES THE LORD. We are told that love is a feeling and can be discarded when that feeling wanes, like an old sock. Marriage is portrayed as outdated in favor of promiscuity. Our bodies are simply flesh and interchangeable as legos. Satanic humanism. I know there are thousands of men who would court this lovely woman in an instant, with the INTENT of hopefully finding a lifelong helpmate, a WIFE to be direct. But we have all been taught that career comes first, sex second, partnership third (for loneliness…) and LOVE, well thats just some magnificently obtuse idealism, that can change with the gust of wind. I am very familiar. I can’t agree more that we live in a satanic society, where everything is inverted. It’s all LGTB BS, SJW’s, white male toxicity and on. So just like her, we men are left floundering for options - and they are next to zero.

At 38, in the same boat as her, all I can say is - pray. Pray the Lord sends someone into your life and in the meantime - be the beautiful FEMININE woman that you are. In these times that alone is a rebellious act against the terraforming of our humanity. Same for the men out there - maintain your MASCULINITY. Be men for Gods sake. If a woman looks at you crosswise for opening a door for her, that’s clue one she’s not for you. Alright thanks for hearing my two cents.


SP said (January 7, 2018):

I liked your latest article from AZ because I can relate to it from the opposite end. The girls I get to meet are a total waste of time. I am 29 so in the same age range. I can feel for her. It is quite frustrating, but I have come to the point where I don’t look anymore. I am focusing on my goals and letting someone approach me. I am quite alpha in the sense I tend to chat girls up first, but a lot of the old ways don’t work with the ‘modern’ girls anymore.

Maybe it is easy for me to say I can wait since I don’t face the biological dilemma, but I would never settle for anything less what I am looking for. I am getting a lot of confidence boosts because girls do talk to me despite my frustration with the lack of quality girls. That leads me to an advice I learned to be true: never abandon your standards. You will meet someone whose standards are just as high as yours. Lower them and you end up with someone who is going to drag you down.

I would have criticised that she chose to move to NYC to wife up because that place is a complete liberal hellhole. I can’t imagine people there are marriage material whatsoever. Maybe the Bible Belt states are an option? Maybe if I lived in the US I could have offered myself as a potential date:)


Robert K said (January 7, 2018):

Think how sad it is that this woman is looking for a person with whom she can build a life more or less as a shelter apart from the wider world she inhabits.

Traditional social and moral supports have been subverted and now are being wrenched away. In the face of this attack the Christian churches have displayed a tepidity, if not timidity, that could best be described as monumental. In a society that revolves essentially around concerns about money and is saturated with fake news, few even understand what being a martyr for the cause of truth might look like, much less contemplate becoming one.

This might be because whereas old-style martyrdom was usually got over relatively quickly, today's politically correct legalists and social care practitioners will prolong it relentlessly for decades. One thinks of the struggles and persecutions of, for example, "outliers" like MP Joseph Borowski, Linda Gibbons, Ernst Zundel, Arthur Topham, Jordan Peterson, etc. There are thousands of others--good citizens who are condemned and punished by the PTB for "wrong thinking"-- whose names never make the news.


Robert K said (January 7, 2018):

Think how sad it is that this woman is looking for a person with whom she can build a life more or less as a shelter apart from the wider world she inhabits. Traditional social and moral supports have been subverted and now are being wrenched away. In the face of this attack the Christian churches have displayed a tepidity, if not timidity, that could best be described as monumental. In a society that revolves essentially around concerns about money and is saturated with fake news, few even understand what being a martyr for the cause of truth might look like, much less contemplate becoming one. This might be because whereas old-style martyrdom was usually got over relatively quickly, today's politically correct legalists and social care practitioners will prolong it relentlessly for decades. One thinks of the struggles and persecutions of, for example, "outliers" like MP Joseph Borowski, Linda Gibbons, Ernst Zundel, Arthur Topham, Jordan Peterson, etc. There are thousands of others--good citizens who are condemned and punished by the PTB for "wrong thinking"-- whose names never make the news.


Eddy said (January 7, 2018):


As a young 27 year old man I can fully relate to AZ from the opposite side of the spectrum. It is no easier for an "awoke and moral" young men to find any meaningful and lasting relationship in this day and age then it is for a women.

I have long wanted to be a family man and to raise children with a loving wife. But after many disappointing dates it becomes increasingly difficult not to be saddened and discouraged by modern society. Lately, I have come to accept the possibility that I may never marry. It's no wonder that young people are increasingly anxious and depressed - many are awake to the truth of the world, yet have no rallying cry, no source of hope or salvation from what becomes a dreary materialist reality of meaningless sex and hyper-consumption. A lonely existence absent love.


SP said (January 7, 2018):

I liked your latest article from AZ because I can relate to it from the opposite end. The girls I get to meet are a total waste of time. I am 29 so in the same age range. I can feel for her. It is quite frustrating, but I have come to the point where I don’t look anymore. I am focusing on my goals and letting someone approach me. I am quite alpha in the sense I tend to chat girls up first, but a lot of the old ways don’t work with the ‘modern’ girls anymore.

Maybe it is easy for me to say I can wait since I don’t face the biological dilemma, but I would never settle for anything less what I am looking for. I am getting a lot of confidence boosts because girls do talk to me despite my frustration with the lack of quality girls. That leads me to an advice I learned to be true: never abandon your standards. You will meet someone whose standards are just as high as yours. Lower them and you end up with someone who is going to drag you down.

I would have criticised that she chose to move to NYC to wife up because that place is a complete liberal hellhole. I can’t imagine people there are marriage material whatsoever. Maybe the Bible Belt states are an option? Maybe if I lived in the US I could have offered myself as a potential date:)


BvG from Belgium said (January 7, 2018):

Here in Europe it is the same thing. Through the feminist agenda feminized gender doubting boys/young men. They’re not bad but way too soft. In Belgium in my small town we have a party hall. Abt 1000 youths between 16 and 25 gather there every Saturday to dance. These parties are terrorized by a group of 4 (four!) 14-15 years old arabs. This says it all abt current generation young men. They are soft and too political correct. In the eighties and nineties, we would have kicked that scum out with a few friends.

For me as a father it is completely absurd when I hear the boyfriend of my 18-year-old daughter talking about this. Will those guys be able to defend their future women and children from the Muslim migrant invasion and takeover that the EU desperately wants? The cynism is that those feminist ugly women who started this softening of our boys are those who were waving with flags ‘wellcome refugees’ and are choosing now these alpha males Arabs and negroes as a preferred partner because those women also follow their hormones and instinct to take the strongest men. I personally think this was meant to be by the elites to erase the white race from Europe. Remember the Kalergi plan.

I am thinking to move to Russia. Together with the Viségrad countries the only true Christian nation in the world nowadays where men are men and women are women. But I am scared for my children who probably will stay here in the migrant infected hellhole that Europe has become.

I would suggest women that want to find a real man to seek in Eastern Europe or to be patient enough to wait for and find a man of the 1-2% exceptions that are still real men.


Wade said (January 7, 2018):

My granddaughter is 24. She has her degree in molecular biology and bio chem. She is preparing for P.A. school with a grueling schedule. She works at the Salk Institute and she is an E.M.T. to get her required hours in for P.A. school. She also volunteers rescuing dogs. On Wednesday nights she only gets 2 hours sleep.

She is absolutely gorgeous model material and does not party. A very old fashioned girl who wants a born again man who is all man. She bakes wedding cakes for friends and family and is a great cook and homemaker. She desperately wants a home, a real man and children.


She has been looking, but so far she has not found a man. She is not looking for a boyfriend or a one night stand, she is looking for a husband, She complains that there are not any real men out there. Sounds like the girl who wrote your article today.


A am 73 and a Nam vet. I look at the majority of young men today and wonder who will defend our Country? The greatest generation of the WWII era have morphed into something I do not recognize as Americans. I could go on and on, but I think when I write to you, I am preaching to the choir. The worst part is I see this situation steadily getting worse and worse.


Susan said (January 7, 2018):

I am very sorry for AZ. I am a 59 year old woman. In high school I bought the fantasy of being a housewife one day, but knew in college by the men around me that no man would volunteer to be financially responsible for me. There was one, but he was physically violent. I am fortunate to have embarked on a career that provides me with a good living. In the meantime, I tried to meet a good man who did not evaluate me as a companion on my ability to earn money. Sooner or later, I would be found wanting.

I did marry. Being nonmaterialistic, it didn't bother me that my husband made less than I did. But eventually he became irritated with my earnings diminishing in direct proportion to my shouldering of family responsibilities. He left for a woman with a bigger paycheck and no family to care for. The last man I met who indicated interest (by chance, I have not actively looked for decades) made sure to tell me that he had a Rolex watch and that he used to have a lot of money but that his ex-wife took it all.

I treat myself to international travel and top notch natural health care. My advice to AZ is to stay in and continue to work on her career because she cannot depend on landing the right man and keeping him for a lifetime.


Diane said (January 7, 2018):

Your narrative reminded me of myself, but I did not figure things out (how a university destroyed my authentic ambitions via brainwashing) til my late thirties.

Here is my advice for you. I am now 50 and a mother of 3.

There are single men suffering as well, looking for you.

If you use an online dating service, change your profile and state the facts.

"I am a single Christian woman who wants to marry and have a family. I don't play games, I am not into casual sex."

Be sure to list the qualities you will bring to a marriage, friendship caring, empathy, domestic skills such as cooking, and hosting dinners with friends." And of course be light, using humor about the situation singles find themselves in can only help.

Then watch the lack of replies to your profile. Except you will start seeing ONLY decent guys reply, the fewer the better. When I did this, I got one or two hits a month.

Offline, host/attend dinner parties, football pot lucks, whatever you can do to meet new people and know that the man has to prove to YOU he is worthy of your hand.

Never try to sell yourself. Nothing has changed in thousands of years. Men want to see a girl who needs them, and can provide a nice home life, and rear the children, And they want to pursue.

By staying connected to social groups and activities, or trying online, I know someone as adorable as you will find her prince.

My husband fell in love with me because I hosted a singles dinner party in my tiny condo and my garbage disposal would not work. It had been broken for months. It took him one second to fix it, but it was endearing to him. Me want to be needed.

I realize I am being Captain Obvious here. But I sincerely wish you all the best.


Mike S said (January 7, 2018):

I enjoyed AZ's article very much.

Four key sentences are "Everyone kept telling me to advance my career and be independent, but I was never truly happy in my soul. I knew something was missing. That this way of life was a lie to my feminine heart." And "What I really needed was to find was a good mentor to ground me and teach me to hold standards for the men coming in and out of my life."

I think all of us, both male and female, know in our hearts that the lifestyle that's pushed on us by society and by the media is a big fat lie.

I also agree with AZ that what's missing from almost all of our lives are mentors to steer us in the right direction. The Church has failed us in this regard most of all, along with our education system, and our media. In all three cases, I believe this failure has been deliberate.


David said (January 7, 2018):

AZ's emotions are exactly what the elites want to create in young Caucasian women who dream of building nuclear families with a strong foundation in Christian faith, since nuclear families are a threat to this perverted NWO the elites dream of. It also dovetails with their goal of depopulating the planet of more humans, except the ones that breed like dogs and can be counted on to fill the most menial roles in their future dysfunctional society and not be a political threat to their hegemony.


Henry Makow received his Ph.D. in English Literature from the University of Toronto in 1982. He welcomes your comments at