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Getting Sex Under Control

December 18, 2011


Most men don't realize how victimized they are by their obsessive compulsive sex drive.
They regard the mating ritual as life's greatest gift, rather than a colossal, self-defeating waste of energy.
Contrary to what we are taught by our cult-ure, men don't need a woman or sex "to become a man."

By Henry Makow Ph.D.

(Originally "The Treadmill of Sex and Romance," March 2006, this is a core article that has been updated and revised.)

At 62, I am no longer of draft age. I'm referring to the press gang of nature. I am no longer needed to father a child.

I know this because my sex drive is not what it used to be.  I can "perform" but I don't need to. Far from being alarmed, I am relieved.

As the hormonal fog dissipates, I have moments of clarity that I'd like to share with younger males still on the treadmill of sex and romance.

After survival, the reproductive urge is our most powerful natural instinct.
Most men don't realize how victimized they are by this instinct. They regard the mating ritual as life's greatest gift, rather than a colossal, self-defeating waste of energy. When they are attracted to a female, they rarely think, "Oh, nature is conspiring to have me propagate the species." 

Instead, they are fascinated, even awe-struck, by any comely young (i.e. fertile) female, regardless of her character, personality, ability or intelligence. They invest her with great mystery and authority; and usually she won't disabuse them.   


Contrary to what we are taught, men don't need a woman "to become a man."

Like so many things we idolize, Gertrude Stein's comment about Oakland applies. "There's no there there." Popular Cult-ure is peddling a hoax.

Jung said that when you take God away, men create false Gods.

Our Illuminati masters have programmed us to recoil at the word "God".

They created a false, simplistic and easily discredited image. God never was a dotty old man who lets evil triumph.

He is the Spirit of Perfection that partly dwells within us. Love is the desire of our spirit to return to the whole. All love is a love of God, i.e. Perfection (truth, beauty, goodness, justice, bliss, harmony.)  God's Will cannot be done unless men (and women) do it. God is not responsible for evil. Men (and women) are.

The Illuminati used movies and music to make us seek sex and romance in place of God. They promote sex because they want to define us by our physical desires alone. 

Romantic love is a form of idolatry caused by this sublimated religious urge.  The lust-object is "Perfect."

Nor is there anything mystical about sex (divorced from love.) Sexual attraction is mostly about reproduction. 

Thanks to porn and the mass media, we are addicted to sexual and romantic memes. 
We suffer from a psychosis, a mental aberration,  a collective pathology.  We are fixated on sex, "possessed" in occult terms.


A woman is peripheral to a man who knows his business, and subconsciously women know this. They shun men who put them on a pedestal.

The romantic inflation of woman causes arrested development in males. (This is why Illuminati media empower and idealize women.) Any man who thinks he cannot live without any particular woman is destined to remain a child. He is looking for himself in the wrong place.

A young man should choose a wife who will help him achieve his goals. One of these goals should be a family. Children are projections of us into the future. They are our offering to God, an Act of Faith. The young man should find a woman who complements him and is easy to live with.

Subconsciously, women want men who serve God. Men (and women) were created to be God's agents. We know God by doing His will, by serving Him through our actions. Women serve God by serving husband and children and are loved, honored and served in return. When women serve themselves, they end up alone and bitter.


The hallmark of civilization is the limitation of sex to love and marriage. This humanizes sex and encourages the formation of families, which are essential to the success of society.

The alternative is "free love" where man is essentially a dog and woman a fire hydrant. Throughout my life, I was taught that the dog-fire hydrant approach (sex for its own sake) is actually worthwhile and profound, that orgasms are mystical and self-control ("repression") causes neurosis.  Woody Allen summed it up: "For an empty experience, sex is the best there is."
Lets put this conflict in historical perspective.  As recently as 45 years ago, our sexual mores were governed by religious principles. In 1960, there was still a social stigma against illegitimate children. I don't favor unkindness toward anyone but this stigma was removed by a powerful force determined to destroy the institution of the family.

modesty.jpegWe shriek at the position of women in Saudi Arabia but in Chicago in 1912, a woman could be fined for showing too much leg. Ben Hecht recalls that the police arrested women for "smoking cigarettes, for shopping without their corsets on...for using profanity...for wearing slacks and shorts, for kissing in public, for wearing a man's hat, for sitting alone in a cafe or drinking in a saloon, for driving an automobile without a male in attendance, for putting too much paint on their faces or cutting their hair too short." (A Child of the Century, p.47)

This is a reminder that our civilization was founded on Christian values. These proscriptions were extreme and needed reform but they had a sound basis. They were designed to channel women into the role of wife and mother as opposed to sexual commodities. 

The forces that removed these taboos also denigrated the role of wife and mother and turned women into public utilities. Deprived of their natural role, many young women are in crisis, binging on drugs, alcohol and sex. 

These occult forces are gradually inducting us into their sex cult without our knowledge. "Secular" is transition stage to their satanic.  The "freedom" they trumpet is freedom from the self-discipline necessary to follow our operating manual and grow healthy and happy.
Until we recognize that mankind is in the grip of a powerful satanic force, we will remain defenseless. Elite social engineers are waging an undeclared war on society. By subverting gender roles, and separating sex from marriage and procreation, they hope to divert, degrade, sedate and control us.

Related -  "Managing the Male Sex Drive"

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Comments for "Getting Sex Under Control"

Mark said (December 29, 2011):

Cudos. You said what needed to be said in your, 'Getting Sex Under Control'. Like your- self, at this advanced age the hormonal fog has lifted, leaving me with far greater clarity of mind, and also like youself, can perform when required. It's truly like getting a monkey off my back -- one that I wish I could have shaken before I turned 20.

If only I had known the truth of the Goddess Cult, Feminism, how our animal drives are being used against us ect. 40 years ago, I would have avoided so many serious mistakes in life (Well, we did have folks like Myron Fagan, but how many ever heard of him?): a distinct advantage your younger audience has over our clueless generation, if they are wise enough to take heed. What you are giving them is far more powerful and persuasive then the killjoy, simplistic answer that the shrinks gave: that pre-marital and extra-marital sex are unhealthy, or what God and the bible give: that it's sinful or wrong. If I was told it was being used by the Controllers to enslave us, I sure as hell would have listened

Andrew said (December 20, 2011):

As a young man, artist and a loving person I would like to thank you
for your work online. My sexuality has been a major hinderance for my enlightenment and finally today I found a place where I can reflect on these issues. I am a musician, and thanks in part to your
contribution, my subject matter is set to improve vastly and hopefully
help others. Thank you.

Michelle said (December 19, 2011):

Thank you for you wisdom/ common sense.. This whole sex thing we had to live thru and were brainwashed into thinking (in the 1970-80's) it was normal and natural to have sex thoughts and urges day and night.

I am so embarrassed by the movies which portray women as unnaturally sex crazed I do know about the use of women as beta slaves (MK Ultra) and how we are taught to be like them ( Marilyn Monroe, et al) Its nearly impossible to talk to others in the depth of the programming , that is in the media. Thats why we don't watch TV or go to movies. Its all just so boring anymore. I and my husband are in our mid 50's, and I personally feel very comfortable about this and we have never been happier and kinder to each other.

And we are very healthy so its not due to bad health, its just natural. My parents and his were brainwashed into thinking having sex was a goal and into performing into their 70's and 80's with the help of Viagra and contraptions to help their poor worn out bodies perform.

. Maybe the programming they got from the culture during their early married life affected them to a greater degree?

Sex is a physical urge that is not meant to be forever. Thank God, we can all graduate to bigger and better things.

Mark said (December 19, 2011):

Great article and very important to let the younger generations know that sex is not the be all and end all of life.

I'm now 40, single and will be until I kick the proverbial bucket. Having been destroyed by my ex, not growing up with my son I decided to call it a day. i simply was tired of the games and emotional and psychological dramas inflicted upon me by womankind. I am by no means a misogynist, as I do have a lot of time for the 'fairer' sex, but all relationships are now purely platonic. I now no longer have any urge for sex. I've been celibate for 4 years now.

It's sad to see the reality of what's happening here in modern Britain. It really feels like I've woken up in a parallel earth quite frankly. Young men are effeminate and women masculine. There is no love, just wanton desire for sex, sex and more sex. People are addicted to football and reality TV as well as the latest rubbish from the film and music industries, there to further brainwash them into mindless, ignorant automatons.

They have no opinion other than what they are fed at primary, secondary, tertiary education and the MSM.

There are many ways that society can fix itself, but of course the NWO and the elites need to be removed and a vulnerable strike to their defenses would be the instant removal of all MSM - no radio, no Film & TV, no music stations. It is interesting, because if you notice, Islamic societies have always put a curb on the MSM, because they know the power that is holds.

I sadly do not believe that there is anything we can do to stop the onslaught of the NWO. It's here, it's almost complete and most of society is clueless about it and if they weren't, they still would care about doing anything to stop them. As Yuri Bezmenov the ex KGB agent who defected to the west said - "the west is, as we say in Russia, contaminated." The rot is too deep Henry. Too deep.

Anna said (December 18, 2011):

(Sent in response to "Feckless Young Primed for Surrender," this comment is just as pertinent here.)

I'm 28 and in the UK, and the situation is identical. Detached promiscuity (ideally bisexual) is celebrated, encouraged, and socially rewarded. Friendships focus mainly on sex - who is doing what with whom, and how they might make it 'hotter' in the future. Emotions, commitment, and - heaven forfend - marriage are derided and mocked. I was talking recently to a friend of mine, and analysing the break-down of her 2-year relationship, when she speculated that maybe it was because her partner hadn't been experienced enough - "I mean," she said incredulously. "He'd only slept with ten people!"

Most people come from broken, dysfunctional homes and so reject the ideas of family - the ideal is to be 'independent', meaning total dependence on an increasingly fragile employment system, because that allows achievement of the epitome of life goals - expensive clothes and overpriced new toys. The girls starve themselves and the boys sweat it out in the gym so they can both preen and pose in the fashionable bars at the weekend, and then stumble into bed with each other (and perhaps a few of their friends, too), while this is all fueled by a never-ending cocktail of drugs - legal and otherwise - to keep them going; cocaine for energy, antidepressants for mood, cannabis to calm down, and alcohol just to take the unrelenting edge off.

However, what I've found is that if you take five minutes to scratch below the surface, everybody is desperately unhappy - they're all going quietly mad. Nobody actually enjoys the young modern lifestyle - what they enjoy is taking drugs. All social pursuits (and particularly sex-related ones) centre around alcohol or some other intoxicant, so provide a socially legitimate context for a whole generation of broken people to substance abuse. And they enjoy doing that because they're all in constant emotional and psychic pain, and the drugs, for a few moments, make them feel better.

The reality is that everybody wants and needs the same things human beings have always needed - family, community, meaning, belonging, love. But now they're too scared to say so, because the advertising industry hasn't endorsed these things as 'cool'.

Henry Makow received his Ph.D. in English Literature from the University of Toronto in 1982. He welcomes your comments at