My Masochistic Marriage to Jeff Rense
February 24, 2012
In love with "Good Jeff" while keeping "Bad Jeff" at bay, I was becoming as crazy as he. Now that I won't have to see either again, my recovery can begin.
This is the final installment of "Jeff Rense's Seventh* Ex-Wife Speaks Out" Part One is here. Part Two is here.
If I tried to "end it" with him - which is what I was advised to do, he pursued me tirelessly. Dozens of emails and phone messages contained sweet promises. Once he even rang my doorbell for ten minutes until I finally broke down and answered.
When I sprained my ankle in June, he refused to pay for a doctor, despite the fact I was unemployed, and we were dating and sleeping together. When I developed an extremely painful ulcer, he refused again. So, neither condition was treated.
Yet, that summer he spent tens of thousands of dollars restoring an antique car, planting trees on his property, and building a greenhouse. He had three people working full time. He was building a railroad tunnel, and putting money into his railroad equipment. But he wouldn't take his unemployed, uninsured girlfriend (he had forced me to sign divorce papers in April under threat of destroying me financially) to the doctor...
This is why I am speaking out. I was so disappointed to see how lavish Jeff's home and property were, given that I had once donated $20 in response to a donation drive. He made it seem he was barely able to stay on the air.
I AM DESPERATE
Being in a relationship with an NPD is extremely destructive. I had overcome many things in life, but was not able to "bounce back" from this. It has been 14 months now, and Jeff and I were involved up until Feb 21. .
Since discovering that I had contacted Henry, Jeff now truly is leaving me alone. He will however viciously slander me. That is one of the traits of people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
He slandered me to others without knowledge. He told Henry I was an admirer who tried to poison him. He told similar lies to his grown daughter - turning her against me before we could become friends. He told lies to the local police, to his friends: Jay Weidner and Carol Rosin - who live in town. We all got along great until Jeff slandered me to them.
If he slanders me now, I will release many documents that show that I have been extremely successful professionally, and well liked. I was a professor for over 5 years, I will publicly post my student evaluations; I was a beloved teacher. My resume and huge amount of successful work I have done in the past 20 years was not done by someone who is "crazy".
I will point you to a video of me on the internet in which I give a physics lecture at Caltech, and you can decide if I seem like the nice, intelligent girl or if I am the crazy lunatic Jeff will paint me as.
RENSE EX-WIVES CLUB
Incidentally, he called all his previous wives and ex-lovers crazy lunatics. Another red flag I missed....
Some of them are following this drama, and I hope they will be brave enough to tell the truth about the "real" Jeff Rense.
If you research Narcissistic Personality Disorder, you will learn that psychopaths are extremely well-liked. They are experts at being lovable. This is why there is so much enmity when people think Jeff is being "attacked". I too once felt just as strongly. But, the charming, lovable Jeff Rense, is definitely not the real Jeff Rense.
I am running out of savings. I was too psychologically damaged from my year in an NPD relationship to properly prepare for the one US job opening that fits my qualifications. Jeff would not leave me alone to prepare - he would come over and upset me - and I could not prepare the lectures that were required of me.
I had to cancel the interview - my only job hope.
I am running out of money. Jeff literally has zero empathy nor takes any responsibility for my situation. He offers me no money. Except he paid for dates, and sometimes bought me clothes.
We were still lovers up until Tuesday, February 21, 2012, when he discovered I had written to Henry to confirm his initial charges.
Now Jeff is finally leaving me alone. And that at least is the first step to recovering. Hopefully, I will become functional enough to figure out a way to survive before my savings run out....
Sincerely, Megan, ex-wife #9 (we're not sure of the count!)
P.S. For all you who wonder is Jeff Cointelpro??? No, Jeff Rense is controlled by no one. He truly believes strongly in UFOs; that's why he runs those stories. He just does his best to keep his business running. He makes an enormous amount of money from the ads on his website and subscriptions to his archives. He is, above all, just a businessman....
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* Rense was legally married seven times, and had one legally binding common law marriage and at least one fiancee, all of whom confirm the same story.
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First Comment: CB Said:
It is good that Megan finally escaped from JR. As anyone who studies personality disorders knows (I have several degrees in human behavior) most people with these type of disorders resist treatment--just a very small percentage of them respond to treatment. In layman's speak they lack the psychological insight to view themselves as having a problem. It's everyone else that has the problem. Psychology has yet to clearly establish whether people with narcissist, & borderline personality disorders are born this way (pathological) or develop over time (environmental) or born with a genetic predisposition and something environmental triggers it. What is factual and can be established is the wreckage these type people leave in their wake: broken relationships, mental and physical abuse, and even death--e.i. murder--to list a few!
feel for Megan because she was exploited and manipulated by a man who
clearly has some serious issues. However I must point out that Megan
(and people like her) exhibited some very irrational and impulsive
behavior in abandoning everything she has worked toward (successful
professor and so on) based upon some superficial promises and charm of a
While JR exhibits some of the symptoms of someone who has a narcissistic personality disorder he was able to manipulate a highly intelligent and attractive Megan (and numerous other women) into a controlling and doomed relationship. This suggests to me that she (and his other female victims) have some underlying psychological issues that need addressed.
Perhaps the good that can come out of this for Megan is an awakening in herself of how could this have happened to me? And from there she can recover her sense of womanhood and find true happiness. Psychologically speaking, It is interesting to note that people raised or recovering from abusive environments/relationships often find/chose other abused people for a new relationship ...[They] are usually emotionally vulnerable and are easily exploited. Obviously JR has a penchant for identifying these type people and exploiting them.
For Megan there is hope for healing and recovery. For JR it is doubtful that he will ever see his need for help and straighten out. Furthermore, his seemingly incessant crusade to destroy HM reinforces the notion that eventually most people with a NPD implode or self-destruct. JR appears to be in self-destruct mode and will destroy his own work and never know it was all his own doing.
Keep up the good work Henry.
P.S. In our communications I knew only
of two ex-wives: one was the mother of his grown
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