Left, Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau promotes the
"Almost half of the white homosexual males...said that they had had at least 500 different sexual partners during the course of their homosexual careers."
Joseph Nicolosi, (1947-1970) father of gay reparative therapy looked at the reality behind the homosexual hype.
Psychologically, the State now assumes the role of homosexual molester:
"A higher-than-average percentage of homosexually
oriented men were sexually abused in childhood by an older male. One study found that 46% of homosexual men compared with just 7% of heterosexual males reported homosexual molestation. The same study also found that 22% of lesbians reported homosexual molestation compared with just 1% of heterosexual women (Tomeo, et.al., 2001). In these cases where the person was molested in childhood, homosexual behavior reenacted in adulthood can represent a repetition compulsion."
"A study of 34,707 Minnesota youth reported that 25.9 % of 12-years-olds were uncertain if they were heterosexual or homosexual (Remafedi et. al, 1992). In contrast, only about 2 to 3% of adults eventually label themselves as homosexual. This means that approximately 90% of these "sexually questioning" teens could erroneously be identified as homosexual, if they are affirmed as gay by a gay-affirmative therapist, school counsellor or an on-campus gay club."
"Being queer means pushing the parameters of sex and family, and in the process, transforming the very fabric of society."
--National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Policy director, Paul Ettelbrick (Kurtz, 2003)
By Joseph Nicolosi, Ph.D.
(Abridged by henrymakow.com)
Today, with same-sex marriage being hotly debated, the promiscuous nature of gay relationships, especially those of gay men, is becoming more widely recognized.
In 1948, Kinsey observed that long-term homosexual relationships were notably few. Now, more than fifty years later, long-term gay male relationships may be more common, but the fact remains that they are typically not monogamous.
(left, author Joseph Nicolosi, father of gay reparative therapy, died in March at age 70)
In a 2009 study of gay male couples, 41.3% had open sexual agreements with some conditions or restrictions, and 10% had open sexual agreements with no restrictions on sex with outside partners.
This study follows the classic research of McWhirter and Mattison, reported in The Male Couple (1984), which found that not a single male pair was able to maintain fidelity in their relationship for more than five years.
The gay community has long walked a thin public-relations line, presenting their relationships as equivalent to those of heterosexual married couples. But many gay activists portray a very different cultural ethic. Michelangelo Signorile describes the campaign "to fight for same-sex marriage and its benefits and then, once granted, redefine the institution completely--to demand the right to marry not as a way of adhering to society's moral codes, but rather to debunk a myth and radically alter an archaic institution." (1974, p 3).
In 1968, Hoffman stated: "Sexual promiscuity is one of the most striking, distinguishing features of gay life in America" (p. 45). A much-cited study by Bell and Weinberg (1978),... showed that 28 percent of homosexual males had had sexual encounters with one thousand or more partners. Furthermore, 79 percent said more than half of their sex partners were strangers. Only 1 percent of the sexually active men had had fewer than five lifetime partners. The authors concede: "Little credence can be given to the supposition that homosexual men's 'promiscuity' has been overestimated" (p.82). "Almost half of the white homosexual males...said that they had had at least 500 different sexual partners during the course of their homosexual careers," (p. 85).
A few years later, Pollak (1985) described sexual behavior among gays as "an average several dozen partners a year" and "some hundreds in a lifetime" with "tremendous promiscuity" (p.44). He said:
(Government i.e. satanist sanctioned decadence)
The homosexual pick-up system is the product of a search for efficiency and economy in attaining the maximization of "yield" (in numbers of partners and orgasms) and the minimization of "cost" (waste of time and risk of one's advances being rejected). Certain places are known for a particular clientele and immediate consummation: such as "leather" bars, which often have a back room specially reserved for the purpose, saunas and public parks. (p. 44)
William Aaron's autobiographical book Straight draws similar conclusions:
In the gay life, fidelity is almost impossible. Since part of the compulsion of homosexuality seems to be a need on the part of the homophile to "absorb" masculinity from his sexual partners, he must be constantly on the lookout for [new partners]. Constantly the most successful homophile "marriages" are those where there is an agreement between the two to have affairs on the side while maintaining the semblance of permanence in their living arrangement. [p. 208]
Gay life is most typical and works best when sexual contacts are impersonal and even anonymous. As a group the homosexuals I have known seem far more preoccupied with sex than heterosexuals are, and far more likely to think of a good sex life as many partners under many exciting circumstances. [p.209]
One writer - who, it should be mentioned, strongly sympathizes with the gay community about the stresses of social discrimination - observes conditions among gay men as follows:
"It must be remembered that in the gay world the only real criterion of value is physical attractiveness...The young homosexual will find that his homosexual brothers usually only care for him as a sexual object. Although they may invite him out to dinner and give him a place to stay, when they have satisfied their sexual interest in him, they will likely forget about his existence and his own personal needs...."[Hoffman 1968, pp. 58, 153, 155]
Aging is also viewed particularly negatively in the homosexual culture, with high value placed on youth (Bell and Weinberg 1978). ...
THE DADDY DEFICIT
Gay relationships are typically burdened with each man's same-sex defensive detachment, and their need to compensate for that same-sex detachment. Therefore the relationship will often take the form of an unrealistic idealization of the other person as an "image." In pursuing the other man as a representation the masculine introject that he himself lacks, many gay men either develop a self-denigrating dependency on the partner, or they become disillusioned because they discover "he has the same deficit I have."
As he did in relationship with his father, the homosexual man fails to fully and accurately perceive the other man. His same-sex ambivalence and defensive detachment mitigate against trust and intimacy. When he becomes disillusioned, he will often continually set his hopes on the possibility of yet another, more satisfying partner.
In seeking out and sexualizing relationships with other males, the homosexual is attempting to integrate a lost part of himself. Because this attraction emerges out of a deficit, he is not completely free to love. He often perceives other men in terms of what they can do to fulfill his deficit. Thus, a giving of the self may seem like more of a diminishment than a self-enhancement.
Although homosexuals do lack cultural supports, such as the freedom in every culture to marry a same-sex partner, I believe this is not the cause of gay promiscuity. I believe the central cause of gay promiscuity is to be found in the inherent sexual and emotional incompatibility between two males. Men were designed for women, and when some factor--psychological, biological, or a combination of both--interferes with that wired-in design, the freedom to marry a partner of the same sex cannot change the fact that "something's not working."
For additional data, see "Romantic Relationship Difficulties," (pages 70-71), "Interpersonal Relationships," (page 80-81) and "Promiscuity as a New Social Norm," (pages 81- 83), in the Journal of Human Sexuality, Vol. 1, 2009, published by NARTH, www.narth.com.
(1) Neilands, Torsten B.; Chakravarty, Deepalika; Darbes, Lynae A.; Beougher, Sean C.; and Hoff, Colleen C. (2010), "Development and Validation of the Sexual Agreement Investment Scale," Journal of Sex Research, 47: 1, 24 -- 37, April 2009.