With all the noise and confusion over gender and sexual harassment, with women's heads so inflated, men need a reminder of how to approach a woman.
Essentially he must have a role for her in his life, and he has to enlist her. This role must be in her best interests too.
Ultimately, in a long-term relationship, women trade power for love. Men want power. Women want love. Heterosexual marriage is an exchange of the two. A woman can have power or love but she can't have both. Women love by acquiescing. Men love by vindicating this trust. He consults her wishes but she must concede the power to grant them, or not. Women want men to take charge.
With perfect submission comes perfect love. Perfect love is never oppressive, domineering or cruel. A man wants his woman to want to be his.
Lisa Schmidt (below) is a woman who gets it. She recognizes
that female "empowerment" is neutering women, making them squander their best years, and reap loneliness & bitterness. This is the Illuminati banker agenda, to depopulate and undermine society by subverting marriage and family.
by Lisa Schmidt
Podcast Host & Coach for Women - who want a no BS approach to life, business and relationships
Call it nature vs. nurture, neuro-biological differences or perceived societal roles. The fact is that the sexes are opposite for a reason. His strong nature and ability to problem solve, or his aptitude for compartmentalizing is hard-wired into his brain. Her nurturing capabilities and emotional charges are the counterbalance to his competitive soul. We are meant to complement each other in order to secure the longevity of the human race. Hunter and gatherer bring home his kill or the spoils of his riches to the protected and provided for, so to speak.
(left. Lisa Schmidt)
Since the dawn of man, it has been more or less understood that there were roles in relationships. As times have changed over the past thousand years or so, those roles have been redefined numerous times. Women's liberation, feminism, the rise in single-parent homes, have all changed how we look at perceived roles. Here we are in 2014. Women are CEOs, highly educated and sometimes the sole provider and protector of their family. While it is amazing and a huge leap forward for women in general, in our modern society it blurs the lines in relationships.
Stop fighting! Quit raging against men and embrace the differences.
I want to share a secret with you that will save you from disappointment and heartache. You are woman and yes, you should roar. Your thoughts, wisdom, and accomplishments are not only noteworthy - they should be celebrated! But at the end of your life, when you look back and are reflecting, do you want to see life and the relationships you had as a struggle? Will it be more important that you let go of the nonsense and discovered true happiness, or did you absolutely need to fight against men to prove that you have evolved past the days of caveman?
Willfully submit to your nature when it comes to "being" in a relationship. Now I don't mean submit in the sense of giving over complete control of who you are. I mean to submit to allowing yourself to be feminine and leaving the bitch and your baggage at the door. A man wants to fall in love with a woman who is confident yes, but whom also is happy and authentic. Coming in with the ghost of boyfriends past or the preverbal chip on your shoulder is a relationship murdering attitude.
THE EXCHANGE OF POWER FOR LOVE
(l. Cruel Hoax 2007. If Western society wasn't thoroughly subverted by the central banking cartel, this book would not be self-published and virtually unreviewed.)
[Schmidt quotes me.]
Contrary to what we have been taught, women need to be possessed by man's love. Similarly, men have a fundamental psychological need to possess a woman with his love. Men want power; women want love. Heterosexual marriage is an exchange of the two, sanctified by an exclusive sexual union. Women need to experience power as love. Men need to express love as power. The exchange of female power for male love is at the heart of the heterosexual relationship. Courtship involves winning female trust so she can surrender power. The male presents her with a vision of life together. He is basically saying: "Follow me. Become one with me. I will use my power on our behalf." Women love by trusting. A woman gives her husband power and he uses it to love her. This is reflected in the sex act. With perfect surrender comes perfect love. ~Henry Makow http://henrymakow.com/
So what are you willing to surrender as your perceived sense of power to find and keep love? Are you able to let go of struggle and welcome exchange to really know and love another person at their very core?
Can you visualize it?
Imagine a picturesque home with a well-manicured yard. There's a white picket fence, an adorable porch swing and sounds of happiness coming from inside. You step through the gate because you cannot help but to be drawn to the appeal of this inviting scenario. You make your way up the path leading to it. Now is where you stop. You must make a choice. Do you walk up to the door and knock, asking to be invited in or do you stand on the porch peering through the window wishing that was your life? More importantly, why have you stopped? Ask yourself why!
Maybe you don't believe you deserve happiness. Maybe you are terrified of the leap of faith it takes to trust this new life moment. Maybe you are just too angry to see this for what it is. Let it all go right now. If you can never let your guard down and accept the exchange, you will always be at that gate or standing on the porch, watching other people have and live the life you want.
First Comment from Jennifer
It sounds wonderful -A Trustworthy Man -enlists her, in her best interests for a long term monogamous relationship. He is not oppressive, domineering or cruel.
Well, my girlfriends and I have never met such a man. We meet men who don't want long term monogamous relationships; don't want children;
or men who hold out a carrot stick of this illusive future of a monogamous marriage only to discover years later that he has issues-- fear of commitment; sex-addiction-cheating-porn; drug-alcohol-anti-deprssants; mommy anger resentment issues; and /or double life - homosexual or Freemason occult secrets.
And then when The Man wants to disengage from the charade relationship he created, he becomes very cruel, oppressive and
domineering -gaslighting her so she will leave and he's off the hook.
Is the problem feminist women not wanting to give up power? Or is it men not wanting the responsibility of monogamous relationship in her best interests !
It is not in any woman's best interest to be with a cheater, porn viewer, drug addict, Freemason etc, etc.--these issues are epidemic today.
I meet so many men today in their late 40s -50s and 60s who confess how horrible they were to women in their 20s and 30s and only as washed up senior men looking back, do they realize/regret their life decisions, women and opportunities they squandered.