left, a Victoria's Secret model, the perfect 10?
Reflections on my cult-ural
what it cost me.
(Updated from Nov. 11, 2009)
by Henry Makow Ph.D.
I have been thinking about a really great woman I knew when I was 24. I
ignored Liz because I wasn't attracted to her sexually. She was pleasant-looking but there was no "chemistry."
She had many of
the qualities in the left-hand column below, and she liked me. But my tastes and even my ideas had been formed by PLAYBOY. Average looking women were literally invisible.
had been brainwashed by my cult-ure to believe that "sexual attraction"
is 90% of what male-female relationships are all about.
I believed marriages were based on sexual attraction. You had to live together before marriage to make sure you were "sexually compatible." Sex was the Holy Grail.
I was thinking about Liz lately, wondering what her life
has been like. Wondering what my life would have been like had I responded to her overture. It must be hard for really great women to be ignored just because they aren't "hot." I have discovered that love makes all women beautiful.
I was thinking about Liz because I am 66 and now realize that sex is a smaller part of a
good marriage, say 30%
What if I knew this back then? I wouldn't have had three failed marriages by the age of 50, two largely based on sexual attraction.
I am happily married now but how different my life might have been. I might have had a family.
Men, Design your perfect "10"
You can choose 10 of the 20 qualities listed below. If you choose only from the right-hand column, you will get the woman in the picture above, but she will have none of the qualities in the left-hand column. Put another way, what are you willing to give up for sex appeal? Write and tell me your answer. Give your age.
Character (Honest, Fair) Sex Appeal
Personality (Cheerful & fun) Sex Appeal
Great Sense of Humor Sex Appeal
Intelligent and reasonable Sex Appeal
Skills & Talents Sex Appeal
Warm and loving Sex Appeal
Devoted & Loyal Sex Appeal
Common Beliefs & Interests Sex Appeal
Incredible Cook & Homemaker
Good mother to your children. Sex Appeal
Unselfish, Interested in Others Sex Appeal
First Comment from Ray:
A store has just opened in New York City that offered free husbands. When women go to choose a husband, they have to follow the instructions at the entrance:
"You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are 6 floors to choose from. You may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you CANNOT go back down except to exit the building!
So, a woman goes to the store to find a husband. On the 1st floor the sign on the door reads: Floor 1 - These men Have Jobs
The 2nd floor sign reads: Floor 2 - These men Have Jobs and Love Kids.
The 3rd floor sign reads: Floor 3 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids and are extremely Good Looking.
"Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going. She goes to the 4th floor and sign reads:
Floor 4 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With Housework.
"Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims. "I can hardly stand it!" Still, she goes to the 5th floor and sign reads:
Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, help with Housework and Have a Strong Romantic Streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the 6th floor and the Sign reads:
Floor 6 - You are visitor 71,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that you are impossible to please.
Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.
To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opened a Wife Store just across the street.
The 1st first floor has wives that love sex.
The 2nd floor has wives that love sex and doesn't nag.
The 3rd through 6th floors have never been visited....